How To Advocate For Your Child When No One Is Listening.

We get your frustration because we’ve been there many times in the past. We’ve walked out of doctor’s offices, IEP meetings, and counseling appointments defeated and mad. But we’ve discovered a few powerful truths about advocating for our child when it seems no one is listening…

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You sit in your car gripping your steering wheel so tight it’s causing your knuckles to turn white. The rush of blood to your head is making it hard to see. In your throat is a knot, and you grit your teeth so fiercely you may break a tooth. You’re mad. More than that, you’re done! Done with being talked down to, done with being disregarded as knowledgable, and done with trying to advocate for your child only to be dismissed constantly.

Why ‘Community’ Must Come Before ‘Education’ On The Adoptive Journey.

Everyone of us on the adoptive journey has gone through training, seminars, and events to educate us on everything from trauma, to attachment, to crisis intervention. But education pales in comparison to our connection to others. Here’s why:

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I was talking to a close friend the other day when he said something that resonated deeply with me (and spawned an entire blog post :-)). He said, “The United States is one of the most educated countries around. We have trillions of articles at the touch of a button. Yet people still languish and wallow in despair and defeat. Not for lack of information, but rather lack of community and connection.”

Mike will be speaking at the Thrive Conference Adoption & Foster Care Conference in Langley, British Columbia on January 19-20, 2018. For details click here.

Thrive Conference

Date: January 19, 2018—January 20, 2018
Event: Thrive Conference Adoption & Foster Care Conference.
Location: Langley, British Columbia
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.
More Info: Click here for more information.

Learn more about booking us to speak in 2018. We have several dates available. Click "Learn More" in our Event Date box on the right of this page.

How Can You Love A Child Who’s Not Biologically Yours?

It’s a still a question we receive from time to time, from non-adoptive and pre-adoptive parents alike. How can you love a child who’s not biologically yours? We understand where this comes from, but we’ve come to a straight up conclusion.

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We just….do. Honestly, I’m sitting here typing, early in the morning, with the grandiose idea of busting out some clever rhetoric to reinforce the point of this post but I’m at a loss. I can’t explain it any other way than to say, we do. Blood, biology, DNA, and all the other fixins’ have nothing to do with it.

What To Do When You Don’t Feel Love For Your Child.

You made the decision to adopt and joyfully welcomed a child into your home. But now you find yourself struggling to feel the same love for them that you do for your biological children. You wonder, “Will I ever love them the same?”

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Tears spilled over the bottom of Maria’s eyes like a breached dam. As they streamed down her cheeks, she sniffled. Through broken words she admitted something she had not been able to vocalize until that point: “I don’t feel love for my adopted son, the way I do for my biological kids! I wish I did…but I don’t.”

The Stuff I Learned From Unexpectedly Becoming A Special Needs Parent.

Most of us who are parenting children with special needs, had some sort of advance warning that our children would have a disorder or diagnosis that would require extra attention and care. Our guest on today’s episode had none. In fact, she was planning for the complete opposite.

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Imagine being pregnant for 9 months, expecting to deliver a normal, healthy child, and suddenly, in the delivery room discovering that your brand new baby had a rare skin disorder that could pose a threat to her life. How would you feel? What would you think in that moment? Would you feel lost…broken…maybe hopeless? You would no doubt feel dismayed. Courtney Westlake and her husband, Evan, had no idea their new baby girl, Brenna, had a rare skin disorder until the moment she entered the world. But in the years since, they’ve discovered a different beautiful. I’m excited to share their story with you in today’s episode…

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How We’re Navigating Summer Break With Kids Who Thrive On Structure.

Ah summer! We’re talking flip flops, sunglasses, bike rides, hanging by the pool, staying up late, catching fire flies, and then sleeping until we wake up the next morning. Nothing better, right? But when you’re parenting kiddos with special needs, who thrive in a structured, routine-driven environment, summer can spell disaster.

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I get it. I’m the parent of eight children, three of whom have major special needs that range from sensory processing needs to hyper-activity and extreme anxiety. Three of my children have been diagnosed with alcohol-related neurodevelopmental disorder, which falls under the umbrella of fetal alcohol spectrum disorders.

“The Stuff I Learned About Loss And New Beginnings.”

Season 6, Episode 49- The Honestly Speaking Podcast

So much of the adoption journey is surrounded by trauma, loss, and grief.  Many times friends, family, or church members will say things that seem to make it even worse.  Is loss and trauma really “just a part of God’s plan?”  Is getting over grief simply a matter of “trusting God more?”

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Listen in to Natalie’s encouraging story as she and her husband listened and learned about finding wholeness and joy through some hard years of infertility, miscarriage, loss, and grief, as well as adoption, virtual twining, and special needs parenting.

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