“My Child Doesn’t Live At Home And I Don’t Feel Guilty!”

We know the feeling. More importantly, we know the wrestling match you’re in because you don’t feel the guilt you think you’re supposed to feel. But, this honest admission doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.

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He prefaced the statement with, “I’m ashamed to admit this.” Then he paused, took a deep breath, lowered his head, and finally released it…. “My son doesn’t live at home right now, and I don’t feel guilty about that. In fact…” he paused again, choking back a reservoir of emotion building behind his eyes, “I love the peace that we feel without him here. I’ve waited so long for it.” I placed my arm on his shoulder empathetically. “I know,” I said, looking him in the eyes.

We are excited to be speaking at the 2017 Refreshed Family Camp this coming summer at Warm Beach Camp in Stanwood, Washington. Click here to learn about Refreshed Family Camp.

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Date: July 30, 2017—August 2, 2017
Event: Refreshed Family Camp
Location: Stanwood, Washington
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.
More Info: Click here for more information.

Mike will be speaking at the Wisconsin Foster and Adoptive Parent Conference on April 8th in Wisconsin Rapids, Wisconsin. WFAPA is a peer and volunteer-based organization that supports and advocates for foster and adoptive parents.

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Date: April 8, 2017
Event: 2017 Wisconsin Foster And Adoptive Parent Conference
Location: Wisconsin Rapids, Wisconsin
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.
More Info: Click here for more information.

How Can I Find Hope When My Life Is Collapsing Around Me?

Season 4, Episode 37- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

Hope. There’s barely another word in the english language that evokes as much emotion as this one. Either you have it, or you don’t. The question is, is there any way to find it when your life is falling apart?

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I used to think that I would find hope AFTER I escaped the difficult life circumstances I found myself in. AFTER my child stopped flipping out. AFTER his disorder and behavior held everyone else prisoner. AFTER my daughter moved past her attachment issues and started bonding in a healthy way with our family. AFTER we moved past the season of making long drives down to a visitation center. I became so fixated on the “some day,” that I failed to see the possibility for hope in the here and now. But I’ve learned that you can find hope in the here and now. You can find it in the middle of the wreckage of life. That’s our topic on today’s episode…

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How To Overcome The Voice That Keeps Whispering Lies To You.

Not a day goes by where I don’t hear it and almost believe it. It’s that voice that whispers and reminds me of all the awful things I wonder about myself, and this journey as an adoptive and foster parent. But there’s a few truths I’ve discovered about this voice.

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You heard it, didn’t you? I’m willing to bet, the moment you opened your eyes this morning, it whispered. Heck, it may have even infiltrated your dreams. Like a thief entering your house undetected, it slithered it’s way into your bedroom and poured itself right into your ear. It whispered to you before you even moved your body from beneath your covers. I know you heard it because I heard it too…

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Two-thousand-sixteen was an amazing year with many new milestones and accomplishments. We traveled to more than 30 states around the country speaking to foster and adoptive parenting groups, our podcast, Honestly Speaking averaged over 4000 downloads a month, and our monthly readership grew from 50,000 to more than 100,000 readers a month. By November we received news that we now had readers in more than 25 countries around the globe. Hundreds of thousands of awesome foster and adoptive parents have found community through Confessions and we couldn’t be more grateful. But we’re far from the finish line. We want to make 2017 even better than 2016 for our audience!

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My Daughter Has Her Birth Mother’s Eyes.

Yesterday we took our daughter to meet her birth mother for the first time in her (almost) 15 years of life. We were all nervous, anxious, and excited. But I had no idea I would be moved to tears.

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The wind was whipping down the corridors of buildings along 16th street in downtown Indianapolis. Although the sun was shining bright, it was cold. A typical late December day in Indiana. I eased the car into a spot across the street from the vintage coffee shop we were meeting in, turned the ignition off, and turned to look at my daughter sitting quietly in the back seat. She smiled at me. Kristin suggested we pray before going in, and so we did.

How The Foster Care Movement Is Changing The Game For At-Risk Kids.

Season 4, Episode 36- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

In spite of a world that vastly misunderstands foster care, or it’s profound impact on the lives of vulnerable children, the movement is changing lives and reshaping the future landscape of humanity.

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Jason Weber is one person who is leading this charge. He is the national director of foster care initiatives for CAFO (Christian Alliance For Orphans), and a recently published children’s book author. His recent book, Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn is a fantastic true story of the impact many people can make when they come together and work for the common good. On today’s episode, Jason and I discuss this.

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