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Why Are Men So Resistant To Adoption? (Dads And Adoption Part 1)

Season 4, Episode 38- The Honestly Speaking Podcast

When I first began the adoption journey, more than 15 years ago, I resisted. But it wasn’t because I was against adoption. There was something else at play in the background of my life.

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It always catches people off guard when I tell them this truth about myself. For as big of an advocate as I am today, it’s hard to believe this little tidbit about me. But, it’s true. Thankfully, my heart changed not long after we began the process, and I never looked back. I couldn’t have dreamed up a more beautiful storyline for our family. I’ve discovered there are many men who go through what I went through. And much like me, it’s not that they’re against adoption. In a 2-part series on our podcast, that’s what my co-host Matt McCarrick and I are discussing.

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How Do I Help My Family See Adoption The Same Way I Do?

It’s a common thread we read in emails and comments from adoptive families. Everyone is excited about their adoption except their extended family. Is there anyway to change this?

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I’m going to be brutally honest here. Extended families (moms, dads, aunts, uncles, brothers and sisters) can be the worst supporters when you’re starting out on the adoptive journey. In fact, some of the stories we’ve heard recently wouldn’t even qualify as support. They’re anything but. Personally, we haven’t experienced this. We are blessed to have two amazing families on both sides who have always supported our family and our decision to adopt. But we’ve spent lots of time with people who aren’t as fortunate.

The Top 10 Non-Negotiables When Choosing Respite Care Providers.

We’re big believers in utilizing respite care when you’re a foster or adoptive parent. But, there are a few musts when it comes to choosing the right person to care for your children.

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We had to travel down a dangerous dirt road to get to the person’s house. After that, there was an obstacle course to get from the driveway, through the yard, and to the front door. My son was hesitant. “Dad, I’m not staying here!” he proclaimed as we knocked on the front door. Once inside, the challenge to get to her front door seemed like a walk in the park. The house was trashed and in complete disarray.

“My Child Doesn’t Live At Home And I Don’t Feel Guilty!”

We know the feeling. More importantly, we know the wrestling match you’re in because you don’t feel the guilt you think you’re supposed to feel. But, this honest admission doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.

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He prefaced the statement with, “I’m ashamed to admit this.” Then he paused, took a deep breath, lowered his head, and finally released it…. “My son doesn’t live at home right now, and I don’t feel guilty about that. In fact…” he paused again, choking back a reservoir of emotion building behind his eyes, “I love the peace that we feel without him here. I’ve waited so long for it.” I placed my arm on his shoulder empathetically. “I know,” I said, looking him in the eyes.

How Can I Find Hope When My Life Is Collapsing Around Me?

Season 4, Episode 37- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

Hope. There’s barely another word in the english language that evokes as much emotion as this one. Either you have it, or you don’t. The question is, is there any way to find it when your life is falling apart?

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I used to think that I would find hope AFTER I escaped the difficult life circumstances I found myself in. AFTER my child stopped flipping out. AFTER his disorder and behavior held everyone else prisoner. AFTER my daughter moved past her attachment issues and started bonding in a healthy way with our family. AFTER we moved past the season of making long drives down to a visitation center. I became so fixated on the “some day,” that I failed to see the possibility for hope in the here and now. But I’ve learned that you can find hope in the here and now. You can find it in the middle of the wreckage of life. That’s our topic on today’s episode…

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How To Overcome The Voice That Keeps Whispering Lies To You.

Not a day goes by where I don’t hear it and almost believe it. It’s that voice that whispers and reminds me of all the awful things I wonder about myself, and this journey as an adoptive and foster parent. But there’s a few truths I’ve discovered about this voice.

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You heard it, didn’t you? I’m willing to bet, the moment you opened your eyes this morning, it whispered. Heck, it may have even infiltrated your dreams. Like a thief entering your house undetected, it slithered it’s way into your bedroom and poured itself right into your ear. It whispered to you before you even moved your body from beneath your covers. I know you heard it because I heard it too…

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We are always striving to make Confessions Of An Adoptive Parent a better blog that helps you on your journey. That’s why we greatly value your opinion and feedback. Could you help us out by filling out our 2017 reader survey?

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Two-thousand-sixteen was an amazing year with many new milestones and accomplishments. We traveled to more than 30 states around the country speaking to foster and adoptive parenting groups, our podcast, Honestly Speaking averaged over 4000 downloads a month, and our monthly readership grew from 50,000 to more than 100,000 readers a month. By November we received news that we now had readers in more than 25 countries around the globe. Hundreds of thousands of awesome foster and adoptive parents have found community through Confessions and we couldn’t be more grateful. But we’re far from the finish line. We want to make 2017 even better than 2016 for our audience!

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