This is a post by our brand new Community Manager, Michelle McKinney. She’s an extraordinary blogger and adoption advocate, and we are excited to have her on our team. You will see her show up often in the comment section of blog posts as well as on our Facebook Page
. Michelle is also a member of our Oasis Care Team
You don’t change the world by staying quiet, being nice, or playing by the rules. Just ask adoptive moms. The passion, energy, and voice they have can, and will, change the world for vulnerable children.
My husband attended a breakout session for an organization doing crazy awesome things in the world for orphans. This question was asked: “So who made this happen?”
Leader’s answer: “It’s usually angry adoptive moms who make things happen.”
It’s a big question we receive often, from church leaders and families in the trenches: how can the church better support foster and adoptive families?
Unfortunately, over the past 15 years we’ve been on this journey, we’ve seen a few churches get this extremely right, but many get it extremely wrong. Personally, our family has walked through a few situations where the church was no support at all. But, we believe in the church and the impact it can have in this world, and for foster and adoptive families.
In spite of a world that vastly misunderstands foster care, or it’s profound impact on the lives of vulnerable children, the movement is changing lives and reshaping the future landscape of humanity.
Jason Weber is one person who is leading this charge. He is the national director of foster care initiatives for CAFO (Christian Alliance For Orphans), and a recently published children’s book author. His recent book, Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn is a fantastic true story of the impact many people can make when they come together and work for the common good. On today’s episode, Jason and I discuss this.
This is a guest post from our good friend Michelle McKinney. She is an adoptive mother and blogger. She describes herself as an imperfect wife and an even more imperfect mom who decided long ago, “Why bring more kids into the world when there are so many here already who need forever homes?” She believes all kids deserve a family. Every single one. You can read her work with HIV advocacy by visiting thoughtsfrommichelleskitchen.com
When you’re in the trenches of the foster or adoptive journey, empathy can go a long way on the path of healing. But what does that look like and how can others be that person of empathy?
Last Monday I traveled with my two littles from Las Vegas to UCLA to have the usual blood work and to get the 2 month supply of life-saving meds like we do every 8 weeks. It’s always a really, really long day. Hospitals and traveling across the desert with kids have a way of taking it out of you.
*Editors Note- This is a guest post from our good friend Michelle McKinney. She is an adoptive mother and blogger. She describes herself as an imperfect wife and an even more imperfect mom who decided long ago, “Why bring more kids into the world when there are so many here already who need forever homes?” She believes ALL KIDS deserve a family. Every single one. You can read her work with HIV advocacy by visiting thoughtsfrommichelleskitchen.com
It’s a disease that comes with lots of stigmas and judgement: HIV. Even parents who’ve chosen to adopt children who are positive receive raised eyebrows. But the stigmas and judgement could not be further from the truth.
This month, my husband and I celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary. This month also marks the 35th anniversary of the first reported cases of AIDS in our country. I never in a million years thought I would care 17 years ago. But I do.
There are over 100,000 legal orphans in the United States foster care system. There are over 300,000 churches in the U.S. If the each congregation would step out in faith and embrace the call to care for orphans, we will end this unnecessary waiting. Every child deserves to belong to a forever family.
My daughter was 3 years old when she walked away from the only home she’d ever known. Carrying only a knap sack, filled with a change of clothes, a dirty sippy-cup. A social worker held her tiny hand as she shuffled down the sidewalk in a pair of outgrown shoes. She never went back. She bounced around the foster care system for four years while the court decided her fate. By age 7 she was finally legally free for adoption. On the day of her adoption, we walked into the courthouse for the last time. With her head held high and a big grin on her face, she officially joined our family forever.
A few weeks ago I received an email from one of our readers asking if we would do the whole adoption or foster care journey over again if we had the chance. My answer was simple.
I’m standing in the Orlando International Airport with my 14 year old daughter, waiting for her to board a plane for Indianapolis. She’s heading home while I’m jumping another flight to Tulsa for my next speaking engagement. She clutches my hand tightly. Even at 14 years old she still holds my hand in public. It never stops warming my heart.
We hear it all the time in the news- child grows up witnessing domestic violence, drug and alcohol abuse, is abused themself, lands in foster care, and goes on to repeat the cycle. On today’s podcast we share the story of a woman who faced all of this but has broken the cycle and beat the odds!
The house she was sleeping in was engulfed in flames. If it weren’t for the heroics of a neighbor boy, Nikka Palmer would have been dead. That night she actually wished she would have died. The painful reality of her life was too much to take- watching her biological parents abuse drugs and alcohol, living through domestic violence, even facing abuse herself at the hands of someone she should have been able to trust.