How Do I Find Support On This Journey?

Season 4, Episode 34- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

If you’ve spent any time on the journey of foster care or adoption you know it’s amazing and beautiful, but also exhausting and isolating at times. The best way to navigate the ups and downs is through a support system. But how do you find one?

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We’ve been through more highs and lows on this journey than we could recount. Sometimes it’s filled us so full we feel like our hearts are going to burst open. Other times, it’s taken the life out of us and left us defeated and searching. The only way we’ve made it for more than 15 years is our amazing, grace-giving support system. We believe in the power of this. We believe everyone on the journey needs one. But how do you go about finding the right people for your inner circle of support?

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3 Ways To Take Care Of Yourself When The Journey Gets Tough.

Season 4, Episode 33- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

It’s not a question of “If you’ll become tired,” it’s a question of “When you become tired.” As much as we’d like to say we have the strength to handle the trials of foster care and adoption, the reality is, it can take the life out of you. How do you take care of yourself when this happens?

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Time and time again we find ourselves hitting the wall emotionally, physically, and spiritually. We love our kids so deep, it makes the deepest ocean look like a puddle. This is never a question in our mind. But, along the way, we run out of gas. There are seasons when our children’s special needs wear us thin. Or, the day in and day out battles of parenting break us. We need rest.

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“My Child’s Attachment Disorder Is Taking The Life Out Of Me!”

Season 4, Episode 32- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

The likelihood of parenting a child who suffers from attachment issues, in foster care and adoption, is high. What does this look like, and how do you build healthy attachment with your child?

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It’s easy to take it personally. In fact, if you’re currently on this road with your child you know exactly what this looks like, and how it feels. You’ve probably had moments where you’ve felt like a complete failure as a parent. We know precisely how that feels. The truth is, however, you’re not a failure and this isn’t your fault. Your child suffers from trauma deeply imbedded within them long before you came into the picture.

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How Do You Get Through Placing Your Child In Residential Treatment?

Season 4, Episode 31- The Honestly Speaking Podcast

We’ve personally been down this road 4 separate times with one of our kids. It never gets easier. How do you make it through the devastation of placing your child in residential treatment?

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In today’s episode of Honestly Speaking, our co-host Nicole Goerges turns the microphone on us, and interviews us over this topic because we’ve walked this road several times in the past. It never gets easy, even when the absence of your child creates peace for the rest of your family.

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Is Everyone Called To Be A Foster Parent?

Season 4, Episode 30- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

Today is the debut of Season 4 of our podcast, Honestly Speaking. It’s been a long 5 months in hiatus but we are excited to share this brand new season with you. On today’s show we are asking a big question:

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Over the past few months we’ve received lots of emails and Facebook comments asking these questions… “Is everyone called to be a foster parent? Should I become one? Am I called to do it?” The initial response, based on the major need we see around our country, in particular, is a resounding yes. But not everyone is equipped to be a hands-on foster parent. Some people just don’t have the capacity to or cannot handle the exhaustion that often comes with this journey. So, what should they do? Where does that leave them? We answer these questions in today’s episode…

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Parenting On Purpose Part 3- Parenting With Intention [Podcast]

Season 3, Episode 28- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

*Editor’s Note- We experienced technical difficulties with the final edit of today’s podcast and had to revert to the original recording from our home church service. We apologize for the audio difference as it was delivered in front of a live audience.

In the Season 3 finale of The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast we’re discussing how to parent with intention. Once you’ve learned to establish boundaries for yourself, and healthy boundaries for your children, you must move in a specific direction to see specific results.

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Over the past 14 years of our parenting journey, we’ve learned so many lessons. The biggest lesson is that we are not in control of our child’s life. Of course we guide and lead because that’s our job as parents but, we cannot force them to make wise choices. Try as we may, we are not in control. We are charged with raising our children within boundaries, and with purpose, but at the end of the day their choices are their choices. We must release our grip.

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Parenting On Purpose Part 2- Creating Boundaries For Your Children [Podcast]

Season 3, Episode 27- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

How do you create and maintain healthy boundaries for your children in a world that is cluttered, distracting, and moving so fast that it’s hard to keep up?

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We learned early on in our parenting that we were not raising children, we were raising future adults. That’s precisely why our boundaries need to compliment this strategy. While I would love to tell you that our children have risen and called us “bless-ed” for the boundaries we’ve set up, they haven’t. Not even close. The Lord above chose to give us with strong-willed children who have pushed every single boundary we’ve created. But, it wouldn’t be called “parenting” if not.

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Parenting On Purpose Part 1- Setting Boundaries For Ourselves [Podcast]

Season 3, Episode 26- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

Parenting is one of the hardest things a human being will ever do. In a fast-paced, noisy world, it’s easy to lose our way. How do you get back on track as a parent when you discover you’ve gotten off course?

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We travel a lot. In fact, lately it seems we’re in a different city every other week. We love it, and wouldn’t trade it, but the flight portion of our travel becomes routine. Sometimes we just put ourselves in cruise control en route to a speaking engagement because we’re so used to flying. The other day, however, I happened to have my earbuds out when the flight attendant walked down the aisle to demonstrate the safety features of the aircraft.

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