Why I Stop Myself From Defending My Special-Needs Child.

This is a guest post by our good friend, Courtney Westlake. She is the author of A Different Beautiful. She lives in Illinois with her husband Evan and two children, Connor and Brenna. After Brenna was born with a severe skin disorder, Courtney began chronicling family life and experiences raising a child with physical differences and special needs on her blog. You can also follow her on Facebook and Instagram.

You really want to speak up, because, you’re a mama bear (or papa bear). It’s so hard to let them stand on their own when you’ve spent so much time advocating for them, defending them, and fighting for them. But there’s a time and place to stay quiet and let them stand.

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I wanted to insert myself into the conversation happening a few feet away from me, to explain and to defend, but I held back. I craned my neck a bit, waiting to hear what my children would say to the little girl who had just asked about my daughter’s red, peeling skin.

Mike will be speaking at the Thrive Conference Adoption & Foster Care Conference in Langley, British Columbia on January 19-20, 2018. For details click here.

Thrive Conference

Date: January 19, 2018—January 20, 2018
Event: Thrive Conference Adoption & Foster Care Conference.
Location: Langley, British Columbia
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.
More Info: Click here for more information.

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The Stuff I Learned About Taking Care Of Myself.

Season 6, Episode 55- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

Self-care for adoptive and foster parents.  We’ve all heard about it.  We have a feeling it might be important, but, honestly, who has time?

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The truth is, parental self-care is a foundational part of being able to care for our children well.  While we may feel like this is one thing we just can’t get around to, it is actually the one thing that can get everything else moving in a positive direction.  Listen in as Mike interviews Carrie Blake, former foster parent, adoptive parent, mama of 7, whose journey towards self-care will inspire and motivate even the most “self-care challenged” among us.

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How Can You Love A Child Who’s Not Biologically Yours?

It’s a still a question we receive from time to time, from non-adoptive and pre-adoptive parents alike. How can you love a child who’s not biologically yours? We understand where this comes from, but we’ve come to a straight up conclusion.

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We just….do. Honestly, I’m sitting here typing, early in the morning, with the grandiose idea of busting out some clever rhetoric to reinforce the point of this post but I’m at a loss. I can’t explain it any other way than to say, we do. Blood, biology, DNA, and all the other fixins’ have nothing to do with it.

3 Reasons Why Traveling With Kids From Trauma Is Worth It.

It’s often a dreaded adventure for foster and adoptive parents: summer travel. Or any travel, for that matter. Often, we wonder, is it worth it? Maybe we’re safer just staying home? We’re here to tell you, it is worth it. And here’s why…

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Living far from family means we travel occasionally. Four kids requires extra care when traveling on an airplane. Four kids with trauma and sensory issues requires extra, extra care when traveling on an airplane. Four kids, with medical needs, and trauma and sensory issues requires extra, extra, extra care when traveling on an airplane.

The Stuff I Learned From Our 16-Year Adoptive Journey.

Season 6, Episode 54- The Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast

We are mixing it up this week on the Honestly Speaking Podcast, as Mike heads over to the other side of the microphone, where he is interviewed by Sandra Flach, from Justice for Orphans ministry, and he shares what HE and Kristin have learned from their own 16-year adoptive journey.

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Mike and Kristin have 8 children ages 8-31 whom they have adopted over the past 16 years.  They have adopted domestically through both private adoption and foster to adopt.  Mike and Kristin have faced many struggles along the way including learning how to parent children who have FASD and having a child in residential care.  You know and love them already as the founders of Confessions of an Adoptive Parent.  Here’s your chance to hear how the idea for Confessions was birthed, and to find out more about Oasis Community, our monthly membership site!

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How My Son Is Changing Lives In His Residential Treatment Facility.

This is a guest post from Ginger Newingham. She is an blogger, adoptive, biological and special needs mother. You can read more of her work by visiting her blog, www.ourmomentsdefined.com

Placing your child in residential treatment is one of the hardest things foster and adoptive parents will ever have to do. Usually, there’s not much positivity. But every now and then, you hear something that encourages the deepest part of your heart. We love this post by Ginger because it proves how just the smallest ray of light can bring you hope for your child. We understand this because our son is in the same situation, and we’ve found hope. May you find it as well as you read her words…

White Sunlight Through Black Clouds

My special needs, broken, hurting son. A missionary.

It’s almost more than my heart can take.

I’ve never imagined my son as one who brings the light into the darkness. I’ve always seen our role in bringing him light, but I had not allowed myself to recognize the glory God could bring to Himself through him.

The Stuff I Learned About Trust From My International Adoption Journey.

The world of foster care and adoption often comes with…wait for it…a whole lot of waiting. Whether waiting on decisions from case-managers, judges, or your foster agency, waiting on paperwork during an adoption, or waiting in-country for court decisions and visas, the long wait and many unknowns can be discouraging.  Where can we find hope when it seems dark and hopeless?

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This week Mike is talking with Jesse and Andrea DeBoer who will share with us what they have learned about trust and hope during many years of waiting through both their foster care journey and their international adoption experience.  Jesse and Andrea live in the Bay Area, in California.  They are foster parents, and have also adopted both internationally and domestically.

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