How To Tell The Difference Between ‘Disorder’ and ‘Choice.’

As parents of children with special needs, particularly Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, we often receive the question, “How do you know if your child’s behavior is a choice, or if it’s their disorder?”

Weight Scale, Balance, Mental Illness

All I wanted to do was wrap my arms around this couple and hug them. We stood by the stage, just after I finished presenting to their foster parent group, and talked about the difficult child they were parenting. She was their first foster placement, and all signs pointed to adoption, until her bi-polar disorder forced a difficult decision. Now, she was no longer living in their home, and they were forced to visit her in a psychiatric unit. The outlook was bleak.

Would We Do This Whole Journey Over Again If We Could?

A few weeks ago I received an email from one of our readers asking if we would do the whole adoption or foster care journey over again if we had the chance. My answer was simple.

Arizona Scenic Drive. Driving Down the Road During Scenic Summer Sunset. Summer Trip.

I’m standing in the Orlando International Airport with my 14 year old daughter, waiting for her to board a plane for Indianapolis. She’s heading home while I’m jumping another flight to Tulsa for my next speaking engagement. She clutches my hand tightly. Even at 14 years old she still holds my hand in public. It never stops warming my heart.