It’s a question we all wonder: “Do I have what it takes to care for this hurting child?” I believe with all of my heart that we do. We’ve got this. And here’s why…
I know you.
And I know what’s going through your mind right now.
Those questions and fears that bounce around your mind like a pinball in a pinball machine???
Yeah, I have them too! Trust me.
We are mixing it up this week on the Honestly Speaking Podcast, as Mike heads over to the other side of the microphone, where he is interviewed by Sandra Flach, from Justice for Orphans ministry, and he shares what HE and Kristin have learned from their own 16-year adoptive journey.
Mike and Kristin have 8 children ages 8-31 whom they have adopted over the past 16 years. They have adopted domestically through both private adoption and foster to adopt. Mike and Kristin have faced many struggles along the way including learning how to parent children who have FASD and having a child in residential care. You know and love them already as the founders of Confessions of an Adoptive Parent. Here’s your chance to hear how the idea for Confessions was birthed, and to find out more about Oasis Community, our monthly membership site!
Have you ever found yourself frustrated with your child’s case-manager? Sometimes it can seem like we are on totally different planets from case-managers when it comes to the many decisions being made about children in our care. What are they thinking? Where are they coming from?
This week, we welcome our good friend, Megan Stroup, Founder and Director of Helen’s House in Marian, Indiana, which specializes in supervised visitations and case management. Before founding Helen’s House, Megan worked in the Department of Child Services for 11 years. Megan is also an adoptee and mom of three. Megan shares with us today about her own experiences as a case manager.* In listening to and understanding another’s perspective, we can all learn to build more positive, healthy relationships with those involved in our children’s lives.
Let’s not candy-coat it. It takes a lot to be a foster parent. It’s completely worth it, but it’s not a walk in the park and certainly not for the faint of heart. That’s precisely the reason I disagreed with a foster care advertisement I saw recently.
I was driving my daughter, and some of her fellow students, to school the other day in our hometown of Indianapolis, Indiana enjoying a nearly perfect spring day. My mind bounced back and forth between all that I had to accomplish in the day and the excitement that I finally felt knowing winter was over. As we drove along the beautiful street, leading straight into the heart of our city, one particular sign, out of the thousands we passed, caught my attention.
In spite of a world that vastly misunderstands foster care, or it’s profound impact on the lives of vulnerable children, the movement is changing lives and reshaping the future landscape of humanity.
Jason Weber is one person who is leading this charge. He is the national director of foster care initiatives for CAFO (Christian Alliance For Orphans), and a recently published children’s book author. His recent book, Farmer Herman and the Flooding Barn is a fantastic true story of the impact many people can make when they come together and work for the common good. On today’s episode, Jason and I discuss this.
Foster parenting is a roller coaster ride of emotions. You love the children you’re caring for, you’re in it because of passion, but you often face a system that can be drawn out, strenuous, and sometimes inefficient. How do you survive the first few years of this journey, which are often the hardest?
We learned just 3 months after beginning our foster parenting journey that it would be difficult. Apart from navigating the system and the revolving door of case managers, many children in our care came from traumatic places, including those who we later adopted. It took a great toll on us.
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Over the years we’ve been asked all kinds of questions, and faced some unfair judgement, regarding foster care. We’ve learned to deal with the off-handed, even offensive, assumptions or questions. In this post I’m setting the record straight.
“Was he a crack baby?” “Is her mom in jail?” “You get a lot of money for doing this, right?” “But aren’t you worried about something bad happening to your family?” Sounds harsh. But the fact is, we’ve had these questions, and more, asked of us over the years.
For decades, the foster care system, and foster parenting, have both carried a stigma. Several, to be accurate. The vast majority of the world just doesn’t get it, nor do they comprehend why a person would take a child into their home who isn’t biologically theirs. Foster parents have been criticized, accused, labeled, even judged.
Every week we receive questions through email and our Facebook Page, inquiring about fostering-to-adopt and whether it’s the right avenue for families to adopt. On today’s episode we talk specifically about the ins and outs of this form of adoption.
In 2004 we began our foster care journey but we had no idea how that would shape the landscape of our family. Six out of our 8 children were adopted from the foster care system. As we stand on the other side of 12 years, we marvel at the amazing story our family’s life is telling the world. We couldn’t have scripted it better. Fostering-to-adopt can be extremely difficult at times, but it’s also one of the most amazing journeys of all time.