A Plea For Time To Slow Down!

Author of 5 books, podcaster, parent trainer, husband and father.

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Lately my 2 pre-teen daughters have caught my attention. But not the normal "Your room is trashed so clean it," or "Don't leave the kitchen a mess," or "Get your feet off the sofa when you're wearing shoes," kind of attention. I can't believe how grown up they are. It's suddenly like time just sped up! There are times when I feel overwhelmed with the thought that in just 7 short years they will both be gone. Off to college! Off to see the world! Off to live their dreams! All good things, but all too fast.

I remember when they were babies. I remember their innocent faces and tiny hands. I can close my eyes and see them lying in my arms, content and peaceful. That was 10 years ago. A decade sure does go by fast.

For that, I’m making a plea for time to slow down. I don’t want to miss anything. Even though I know that my attempt is futile, I’m boldly crying out!

I snapped the picture below, one summer afternoon, while mowing the backyard. As I passed by our swingset, I took notice of the ruts below the swings. The thought suddenly occurred to me- “I’ll be sad when these are gone.” Afterwards I wrote the following post for my former blog, repaintingthewalls. It’s not a plea for things to never change, but rather, stick around a little longer because I’m not sure I’m ready to let go just yet:

Swingset Ruts, stay awhile.

Resist the pressure from the surrounding grass to fill you in. Kick up a cloud of dust every time I drive over you with the mower. Freeze in time and keep your jagged egg shape until I’m ready to let go. Always provide a soft, dusty place for little feet to sweep back and forth over.

If you can, record the playful laughter and joyful screams you hear above you. May the cracks and crevices we find in you, from the torturous summer heat, look more like crooked smiles than earthly strain.

Every time I notice you I’m reminded of the beautiful gift of my children. I hear their words, “Push me daddy!” “Make me go higher, I want to touch the tree!”

I wouldn’t trade those words for anything on this earth.

I’m eternally grateful for you Swingset Ruts. Our time together will forever be cherished by me. I know it’s impossible to have you stay forever. I’m okay with that. It’s just a fact of life. For now, though, I will hold tightly to every moment I’m given to stand behind you and spend time with my precious children as they live in the fullness of life above!

Do you feel the same way? Is time moving too fast for you and your children? What do you need to do to make the most of every day with them?

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Mike and Kristin Berry are the Co-Founders of The Honestly Adoption Company and have been parents for nearly two decades. They are the authors of six books, and the host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.

Sarah Gray

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Karen Anderson is the Community Engagement Specialist for The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends the bulk of her time interacting with, and helping, people through our various social media channels, as well as providing support for Oasis Community members through chat support or Zoom calls. In the same spirit as Beaver, Karen is also passionate about connecting with parents and making them feel loved and supported. Karen is also an FASD trainer and travels often, equipping and encouraging parents.

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Kristin Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Content Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. She spends most of her time researching and connecting with guests for our podcast, as well as direction, designing and publishing a lot of the content for our social media channels, blog and podcast. She loves to connect with fellow parents around the world, and share the message of hope with them.

Mike Berry

Mike Berry is the co-founder of, and Chief Marketing Specialist for, The Honestly Adoption Company. He spends the bulk of his time and energy designing and building many of the resources you see within our company, as well as social media and email campaigns. His goal is to use media as a means to encourage and equip parents around the world. He is also the co-host of The Honestly Adoption Podcast.