To The Parent Who Is Struggling…I See You!

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and isolated on the parenting journey. Especially when you are struggling with your children. But there is hope in the midst of the struggle…

I remember the first time I felt that isolating feeling. You know the one I’m talking about, right? As if you’re standing in the middle of a crowded room, surrounded by people who are talking, laughing, hugging, and joking, but you feel unseen. You wonder if you screamed at the top of your lungs, or began throwing a massive temper tantrum in the middle of the crowd, if anyone would stop and take notice?

Honestly Adoption “Answers” (Part 2)

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 13, Episode 112

Welcome back to Part 2 of our special podcast series “Answers.” In this episode we discuss one of the questions we pose in our new book, Honestly Adoption, which is “Why Is It Important To Empower Our Children?”

Because our children have come from hard places, they often feel powerless to speak up for themselves, advocate for themselves, and even make decisions that affect their lives. The loss that lives within them often propels this. That’s why it’s critical that we empower our children. In this week’s episode we once again take you behind the scenes of writing our latest book, but also answer the question, “Why is it important to empower our children?” Listen in now…

There’s A Reason Your Child Always Fights You For Control

As parents of children with a trauma history, we often find ourselves engaged in futile battles with them for control. But when we understand the why behind their fight, the way we parent them can change.

We understand.

Let’s begin there. We understand the battles you’ve gone through (and are going through) with your child. We’ve been there. Every single day your child fights you for control and it’s exhausting. Sometimes, the battle makes sense. But most of the time, it doesn’t at all. Every day is a merry-go-round and you just want to get off of it for a while.

Honestly Adoption “Answers” (Part 1)

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 13, Episode 111

In just a couple of weeks, on August 6th, we will release our new book, Honestly Adoption: Answers To 101 Questions About Adoption and Foster Care. In this 3-part series called “Answers,” we’re taking you behind the scenes of how the book was written, and also answering some of the questions we ask in the book.

There are a lot of questions when it comes to foster care and adoption. One of the biggest questions we’ve received (and we answer in the book) is “How should I handle an older child’s tantrum in public?” Listen in now for the answer…

How To Find Therapy For The Caregiver

The children we care for may need to spend time every week seeing a therapist to help them process their trauma history. This is a good thing. However, it begs the question…what about you? The caregiver? What if you need therapy to? How do you find this?

I believe deeply in the importance of therapy for children who have experienced trauma. My children have had some of the most amazing counselors over the years who have gone out of their way to support not only my children but my entire family.

Is It Disobedience Or A Teenager Being A Teenager?

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 13, Episode 110

In our latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we conclude our series, Is It Disobedience Or Something Else, by talking about teenagers…

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Fostering, adopting, or even simply parenting teenagers is no small task and it’s certainly not for the faint of heart. It’s challenging. But when you consider the reality of trauma histories, and how they determine present behavior, the question must be asked- “Is this a teenager being a teenager, or is there something else going on here?” That’s the question we answer in this episode of the podcast. Listen in now…

Why Is My Child’s Behavior Prickly?

When our child’s behavior becomes off-putting, or prickly, it’s often hard to remember that it’s an indication of something bigger going on with them. Remembering this, however, can change how we approach our children…

Blackberries are ripening in Indiana. The warm, rainy summer has left our crop of berries abundant. Behind our barn on the east side of our property the blackberry bushes grow wild, twisting and climbing, weaving their way over old tree stumps and hiding the fresh fruit behind tall weeds. I love to grab a large bowl from the kitchen and make my way behind the barn to pick the dark purple berries. I reach gingerly past the thorns delicately pulling the berries free from the vine. By the time I’m finished, the bowl is full, and I head to the kitchen to make dessert. My hands are stained purple and tiny scratches cover my arms, webbed reminders of the delicate and painful work of harvesting this sweet treat.

Is It Disobedience Or Lack Of Sleep?

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 13, Episode 109

We’ve all seen the signs with our children. Rubbing their eyes, irritable, erratic, frustrated, disobedient, you name it. They’re tired. But often, we can mistake lack of sleep for bad behavior. It’s not, but in our busy lives, it’s easy to miss the signs…

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In this latest episode of The Honestly Adoption podcast we walk through signs and symptoms of a lack of sleep. When we parent children with a trauma history, we have to remember that vigilance, and fear, and anxiety can cause them to not sleep. What do we do? How do we respond? Listen to the episode now…