Honestly Adoption “Answers” (Part 1)

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 13, Episode 111

In just a couple of weeks, on August 6th, we will release our new book, Honestly Adoption: Answers To 101 Questions About Adoption and Foster Care. In this 3-part series called “Answers,” we’re taking you behind the scenes of how the book was written, and also answering some of the questions we ask in the book.

There are a lot of questions when it comes to foster care and adoption. One of the biggest questions we’ve received (and we answer in the book) is “How should I handle an older child’s tantrum in public?” Listen in now for the answer…

Is It Disobedience Or Lack Of Executive Functioning?

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 13, Episode 105

On today’s episode of the The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are continuing our series called “Is It Disobedience Or Something Else,” by answering the question, “Is it disobedience or lack of executive functioning?” Our show is now available to watch on YouTube. Check it out..

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For the next several weeks we are asking the question, “Is it disobedience or something else?” The reality is, children who have experienced significant trauma display behaviors that can often be misinterpreted as disobedience. But the truth is, there is so much more going on.

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Is It Disobedience Or Survival?

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 13, Episode 104

We are excited to kick off a brand new season of The Honestly Adoption Podcast. Beginning with this new season, we are also featuring the show on YouTube. Check it out..

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For the next several weeks we are asking the question, “Is it disobedience or something else?” The reality is, children who have experienced significant trauma display behaviors that can often be misinterpreted as disobedience. But the truth is, there is so much more going on.

Listen to the audio player now:

How An End Of School Year Awards Ceremony Made Us Proud Of Our Kids!

Sometimes we can become so exhausted on this journey that we lose sight of our children’s accomplishments. They are warriors. Many have had to overcome so much! Even if you’re in a hard season, you have reason to be proud!

Once again, to my surprise, school is drawing to a close for the year. Parents, we’ve almost made it! Announcements for award ceremonies are going out through multiple emails. Parents are notified if their children will be receiving an award. We received a note stating one child would. Not a surprise. He’s a smart kid. Does his homework without being told. Those kind do exist who seemingly don’t struggle. But we got another one. For another child. And I knew due to the flu season that ravaged our home and required renting a carpet cleaner, it wasn’t for attendance. What could this award be? Surely this is wrong. Perhaps it accidentally got placed in the wrong backpack, I wondered.

Why I Can No Longer Bubble Wrap My Child

This post is written by Mike, an adoptive Dad about a lesson learned from our good friend who is an attachment therapist and also an adoptive mom.

As our children grow into adulthood, we become increasingly helpless to stop them from making choices that could lead to serious consequences. What do you do when you realize you can no longer stop them from doing what they want?

I remember the first time one of my children did something that led to a serious outcome.

Why You Should Never Bad Mouth Your Child’s First Family

This post is written by Kristin, Kristin is an adoptive mom, an adoptive big sister, an adoptive aunt, and the granddaughter of two adoptees.

It can be a difficult thing to not do, at times, because your child’s storyline may not be very positive. But it’s critical that we never bad mouth our child’s first family. Here’s why…

My mom taught me not to talk about people behind their back. I appreciate that lesson. It was something that she and my dad not only taught us but something they also modeled.

Will The World Ever Understand My Child’s Disorder?

This post was written by Mike, an adoptive dad who is familiar with the ins and outs of special needs parenting, to encourage caregivers to support our children well.

From frustrating IEP meetings, to disagreeable doctors, inappropriate church goers, and nosey neighbors. The world is full of people who think we’re making our child’s disorder up, or just misunderstand our reality altogether. The question is, will they ever understand?

No. They won’t. Actually, let me change that…probably…most likely not. This can be a bitter pill to swallow, I know. It is good to begin with an attitude of hopefulness but at the end of the day, many people will not understand your child’s struggles. Disorders like FASDs (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders) oppositional defiance disorder, attachment disorder, or separation anxieties (to name a few) are misunderstood, if not ignored completely.

When Holidays Aren’t All They’re Cracked Up To Be

This post was written by Michelle, an adoptive Mom.

When most families around the world celebrate a Holiday like Easter Sunday with jubilation, families like ours, with kids who have experienced trauma, brace for a storm. From the candy, overstimulation from church and family gatherings, to the mad rush of an easter egg hunt, it often proves to be disastrous. How can caregivers find hope when this is the case?


It’s the day after Easter. I’m sitting on the couch scrolling through Facebook. I should know better after holidays. Look at all the beautiful family pictures! All those smiles! Such pretty dresses. Everyone enjoying church together. Fun Easter egg hunts and spring activities. Lots and LOTS of smiles and thanksgiving for blissful time with extended family and even a few mentions of what Easter truly is.