When Holidays Aren’t All They’re Cracked Up To Be

When most families around the world celebrate a Holiday like Easter Sunday with jubilation, families like ours brace for a storm. From the candy, overstimulation from church and family gatherings, to the mad rush of an easter egg hunt, it often proves to be disastrous. How do you find hope when this is the case?


It’s the day after Easter. I’m sitting on the couch scrolling through Facebook. I should know better after holidays. Look at all the beautiful family pictures! All those smiles! Such pretty dresses. Everyone enjoying church together. Fun Easter egg hunts and spring activities. Lots and LOTS of smiles and thanksgiving for blissful time with extended family and a few mentions of what Easter truly is. 

What Do You Do When You’re Forced To Wait?

This is a guest post by our friend Alison England,LMSW. She is an adoptive mom and the award-winning author of the devotional Tandem. Alison and her husband, Joel, have been together since college and have three children. She cofounded Momentum Adoptions, a licensed adoption agency and is a professor at Arizona State University. Alison brings more than 15 years of professional experience in social work to the pages of Tandem. She now volunteers as the President of the west coast chapter of the non-profit organization, Families for Private Adoption (FFPA.org)

How many times have you let your past or incessant focus on the future impede your right now? Maybe your right now is a snapshot of you and your hubby. Maybe your right now is a quest to build your family through adoption. In the midst of planning for your tomorrow, it is important to make space to experience joy in the moment-in the right now.

It is a hard task to incorporate our life challenges-like infertility, or loss, or illness-into our life story, and still experience joy and celebrate life in the present. Life circumstances might dictate the season you are walking through, but you choose how you spend your time in the right now.

Kids In Foster Care Are The Heroes Of The New DC Movie Shazam And It’s Awesome! (Movie Review)

*WARNING: SPOILERS*

Two movie reviews in one week! We’ve never done this before. But as the weather becomes warmer, and families venture out to the theaters, we want to adequately equip you to make the best choices in family entertainment. Check out my full review below…

I’ll be the first to admit: I’m traditionally a Marvel guy. Give me a Captain America, Thor, Black Panther, or Avengers film any day of the week and I’m happy. So, my 3 young sons and I cautiously trotted into a Florida theater to see the new DC film, Shazam this past Friday. They are Marvel men as well.

Is Disney’s Dumbo Appropriate For Kids Who Are In Foster Care Or Adopted?

*WARNING: Spoilers!*

Disney’s live action take on the classic Dumbo soared across screens nationwide on March 29th, and I’m answering some big questions on how appropriate the film is for children who are in foster care or adopted.

As a kid, I watched the animated version of Dumbo over and over. I loved it, as I did just about every Disney movie back then. Even as a youngster, I stood up and cheered when Dumbo finally silenced his critics and took a leap off of that platform, spread his ears wide, and soared over the crowd. What a triumph! What a silencer of the haters! For this insecure, awkward, often picked-on little boy, Dumbo was my hero.

3 Keys To Establishing Genuine Support For Families

Season 12, Episode 103- The Honestly Adoption Podcast

The word support can be a trigger word for many foster and adoptive parents. The reason is that often, they lack it, desperately need it, but have no idea how to find it. And many organizations are at a loss as to how to provide it. In this latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we talk about 3 keys to establishing genuine support.

My good friends Josh and Jenn Hook, authors, bloggers, and leaders of Replanted Ministry and Refresh Chicago, join me on this episode. Recently, the 3 of us co-wrote the brand new book Replanted: Faith-Based Support For Foster And Adoptive Families. In this episode, we’re taking you inside the book to discuss 3 keys to finding and establishing genuine support for families. Listen In Now…

Make sure you visit the Honestly Adoption Podcast website over at www.honestlyadoption.com. You can catch up on past episodes as well as visit our latest featured resources!

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Why Loving This Child Will Gut You Before It Fills You Up

This journey is hard. There’s no question. When we signed up for it, we never knew loving children from hard places would take so much out of us. We didn’t realize that, even when we felt empty, we’d have to keep going. But that’s what real love is all about.

It’s a cold and dreary day in Central Indiana. I’ve got a little extra time on my hands so I decide to do something I don’t often do. Go to the gym. I need it. It’s been a long and harsh winter, with plenty of sitting around and waiting for the weather to clear, plus I pay for a monthly membership fee. I cringe even as I type those words.

How To Help Your Children Advocate For Themselves

As parents, we spend a lot of time advocating for our children, and ensuring their needs are understood, and met. That’s a big part of our job. But we also must begin to teach our children to speak for themselves. How do we successfully do that?

Hello, my name is ~. I have an FASD, Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. 

Some things are harder for me like focusing, sitting still and remembering things. 

I’m very good at some things like drawing, problem solving and building things. 

How To Recognize Mixed Maturity And Developmental Trauma

There are so many up and down emotions swirling around in our children, and we are often so exhausted, that it’s easy to forget about developmental delays. How do you recognize this in your children? This may help… 

With the journey I’ve been on with my kids over the last 13 years, I’ve become a firm believer in getting our kids evaluated by professionals. Not just any professional. But professionals who specialize in adoption. Admittedly, they are hard to find. Which is why we travel hours, and sometimes to the next state over, and pay a lot of money because insurance doesn’t usually cover the best.