How To Promote Healthy Attachments With Your Child

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 12, Episode 100

How do you build and promote healthy attachments with children who have come from hard places? In this brand new episode Kristin talks with our good friend Deborah Gray about this very subject…

Deborah Gray specializes in the attachment, grief, and trauma issues of children in her practice, Nurturing Attachments. Her method of working with children and families reflects her strong developmental and infant mental health perspective. Her passion is to help families develop close, satisfying relationships. She has worked for 20 years in children’s therapies. We are pleased to have her on this week’s show. Listen in now…

How Do You Know When It’s Time For Residential Treatment?

3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself Before Taking This Step.

It’s a question our team receives quite often from parents all over the world: “How do I know when it’s time to consider residential treatment for my child?” Our answer has changed over the years…

I’ll admit it openly. If you would have asked me this question just 6 or 7 years ago I would have told you a very different answer than I would today. No doubt would I have said something to the effect of, “You’re exhausted, you shouldn’t have to keep dealing with the mind games, the manipulation, the stress of parenting this child. If you’ve tried everything to get them to stop, but to no avail, then it’s time to consider treatment outside of the home.” Maybe not verbatim, but this is what I used to believe.

Her Behavior Isn’t Manipulation, It’s Survival!

It’s easy to view your child’s behavior, especially manipulation, as that of a rotten child. But there’s something deeper going on that is hard to see on the surface…

I press my fingers into the temples of my head because I’m so…unbelievably…done! (I just inserted the word “unbelievably” instead of the word floating around in my head in order to keep this post family friendly). I can’t take one more second of the manipulation…the lies…the conniving…the sneakiness!

“What Advice Would You Give To Parents During The Holidays?”

Tea With Teens Episode 2

In the latest episode of Tea With Teens, the girls get together to decorate Christmas Cookies, sip Hot Cocoa, and spill a whole bunch of tea…

“What is your favorite Christmas tradition?”

“Some children get dysregulated during the holidays. What advice do you have to keep them calm?”

“What advice would you give my newly adopted little girls?”

Dear Frustrated Parent, There’s Hope For More!

There are days when you struggle to believe your child is ever going to be able to function on their own, do the right thing, or make the right choices. But I believe, there is hope for more!

Can I just be honest for a second. This past Sunday I had had it with my child. HAD it! I was beyond done. In fact, I instantly allowed myself to go to a place of complete and utter hopelessness. We had finally made it to church after weeks of not being there, and I plopped into my seat in the back row, hopeless!

When Faith Requires You To Do Something Scary

This is a post by our good friend Lisa Qualls. Lisa is the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a resource site for adoptive and foster moms, where she provides courses, The Adoption Connection Podcast, and coaching. She is also the creator of One Thankful Mom where she mentors adoptive and foster moms through her writing. Lisa is the mom of twelve kids by birth and adoption (and sometimes more through foster care). She and her husband, Russ, celebrated their 32nd anniversary by becoming foster parents. Lisa’s adoption journey has been marked by joy as well as challenges of trauma and attachment. She earnestly believes there is hope for every family.

The adoption and foster care journey are filled with moments where a leap of faith is more than needed. It’s necessary. That’s why we love the following words on faith. May this encourage you as you step into the New Year…

Sometimes we need to take a leap of faith and jump in over our heads simply because God asks us to.

I’m not talking about being completely foolish, rejecting wise counsel, or doing something in opposition to our spouse. I’m also not talking about putting your children in danger. I’m talking about doing something that scares you or you’re not sure you can handle.

How To Create Structure During The Chaos Of The Holidays

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Encore Episode- Season 11, Episode 98

The holiday season, specifically Christmas break, is often a dreaded time for foster and adoptive parents because it means a lack of normal structure for their kiddos. How do you navigate through this time successfully?

In this special Encore episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Mike and Kristin discuss tips and tricks for maintaining a level of regulation during the chaos of the Holiday season with Licensed Mental Health Counselor and therapist, Ruth Graham. This was part of our 2017 special Holiday Podcast Series called “Holiday Survival Tips and Tricks.” Listen now…

A Full Review Of The New Film Instant Family

*WARNING: SPOILERS!*

Paramount Pictures has finally released the brand new film Instant Family, into theaters nationwide, and I had the chance to pre-screen it just before it debuted. In this post, I provide my full perspective on the film.

I’ve never really been a big fan of adoption or foster care-related movies. Mostly because they often miss the mark in portraying the honest and raw emotions that come from this journey (and you know how much we love honesty..:-) ). There have been a few exceptions to this. Who can forget the moment that Leigh Anne made Sean stop the car in The Blind Side when they saw Big Mike walking alone in the cold and then invited him home with them? Tears every time I watch that scene! And the moment when Annie’s supposed birth parents show up to Mr. Stack’s apartment to pick her up is heart-wrenching in the 2014 Annie remake.