How To Build A Positive Lifelong Relationship With Your Children

Season 12, Episode 101- The Honestly Adoption Podcast

In this brand new episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, our amazing producer, Matt McCarrick, chats with Mike about his brand new book, Winning The Heart Of Your Child, how to be an influence in your child’s life, why your kids sometimes seem like they aren’t listening at all, and some of the hardest stories he told in the new book!

Parenting is far from easy. In fact, it can take the life out of you at times. But it’s beautiful and amazing, in-spite of the frustrations. Believe it or not, you are the greatest voice of influence in your child’s life. You’re just not the only voice of influence. In this episode, Mike and our producer Matt cover a lot of ground when it comes to building a positive lifelong relationship with your children. Listen in now…

Love Is There, Even If You Don’t Always Feel It!

Sometimes it’s hard to feel a genuine connection with our children. Especially if we have a lot of difficulties with them often. But trust that love is there. Even when it doesn’t feel like it.

It’s no secret that some types of people are easier to love. It’s no secret that some types of people are hard to love. It’s not a secret that some types of kids are easier to love. There are even some types of kids who are SUPER HARD to love. The BIG secret however, is that sometimes they are your very own children. Even if they are biological. Sometimes connections are just easier with some than others. 

What Do You Do When Your Back’s Against The Wall With Your Child?

It’s easy to feel trapped on this journey with your children. Sometimes the extreme behavior, the anxiety, the aggression, the constantly needing you but then pushing you away, can feel unending. What do you do when you feel like your back is against the wall?

“I feel like my back’s against a wall and I don’t see any end in sight.”

Her words dripped through my computer screen on a cold Indiana morning, like fresh coffee dripping into a pot. I remember thinking, “Boy have we been there.” Feeling like there’s no end in sight, like your child’s behavior is never going to change, they’re never going to get better, and you’re never going to see a brighter day? Yep! We know the feeling.

How To Promote Healthy Attachments With Your Child

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 12, Episode 100

How do you build and promote healthy attachments with children who have come from hard places? In this brand new episode Kristin talks with our good friend Deborah Gray about this very subject…

Deborah Gray specializes in the attachment, grief, and trauma issues of children in her practice, Nurturing Attachments. Her method of working with children and families reflects her strong developmental and infant mental health perspective. Her passion is to help families develop close, satisfying relationships. She has worked for 20 years in children’s therapies. We are pleased to have her on this week’s show. Listen in now…

How Do You Know When It’s Time For Residential Treatment?

3 Key Questions To Ask Yourself Before Taking This Step.

It’s a question our team receives quite often from parents all over the world: “How do I know when it’s time to consider residential treatment for my child?” Our answer has changed over the years…

I’ll admit it openly. If you would have asked me this question just 6 or 7 years ago I would have told you a very different answer than I would today. No doubt would I have said something to the effect of, “You’re exhausted, you shouldn’t have to keep dealing with the mind games, the manipulation, the stress of parenting this child. If you’ve tried everything to get them to stop, but to no avail, then it’s time to consider treatment outside of the home.” Maybe not verbatim, but this is what I used to believe.

Her Behavior Isn’t Manipulation, It’s Survival!

It’s easy to view your child’s behavior, especially manipulation, as that of a rotten child. But there’s something deeper going on that is hard to see on the surface…

I press my fingers into the temples of my head because I’m so…unbelievably…done! (I just inserted the word “unbelievably” instead of the word floating around in my head in order to keep this post family friendly). I can’t take one more second of the manipulation…the lies…the conniving…the sneakiness!

“What Advice Would You Give To Parents During The Holidays?”

Tea With Teens Episode 2

In the latest episode of Tea With Teens, the girls get together to decorate Christmas Cookies, sip Hot Cocoa, and spill a whole bunch of tea…

“What is your favorite Christmas tradition?”

“Some children get dysregulated during the holidays. What advice do you have to keep them calm?”

“What advice would you give my newly adopted little girls?”

Dear Frustrated Parent, There’s Hope For More!

There are days when you struggle to believe your child is ever going to be able to function on their own, do the right thing, or make the right choices. But I believe, there is hope for more!

Can I just be honest for a second. This past Sunday I’d had it with my child. HAD it! I was beyond done. In fact, I instantly allowed myself to go to a place of complete and utter hopelessness. We had finally made it to church after weeks of not being there, and I plopped into my seat in the back row, hopeless!