Sometimes our kids have big emotions which lead to big behaviors. They seem to come out of nowhere. But if we’re really in tune with our kids, we just might catch the problem before the behaviors come and help them process in a healthy way.
A friend from out of town visited over the weekend. Not someone we see often since it’s a long plane ride between us. So our kids don’t really know him even though we have been friends a long time. Since college long-time. I won’t tell you how many years that has been so not to age myself. Since business overlaps for us, we had him come help us with a few things for an extended weekend.
The leaves are changing, the temperatures are dropping, and the time has changed here in the United States, meaning one thing: it’s fall. We’ve got some great recommended reading to warm up those chilly fall nights.
I (Mike) admit it, I’m listening to Christmas music as I write this post. I can’t help it. Once Halloween is over, it’s the Christmas season as far as I’m concerned. My family usually revolts. They try to stop me, stage interventions, even re-hide the Christmas decorations. But they have no control over my Christmas lists on Spotify :-). Yes I know, it’s not Christmas yet. The fall has just begun. So, because of that, I’ve got a hot-off-the-press fall reading list to make these windy, nippy fall nights a little warmer.
It’s November 1st. Halloween decorations are being replaced with turkey cut-outs and corn-a-capias on front doors. Soon, Christmas lights will dawn those same homes. It’s officially the holiday season. But for foster and adoptive families, this can mean dysregulation city! How do you help your children stay calm and regulated during this season?
It’s tricky, but there are some key steps you can take to navigate the holidays with your children and find success. You may even find that often-elusive peace. It begins by being intentional with planning, boundary-setting, awareness of what your children need, and a few other things. Listen in to our discussion now…
Are you a transracial adoptive family, foster family or mixed race family? Are you a person with fantastic curly hair? Whoever you are and whatever type of hair you have, you will love Janine Beachy. She was a true delight to interview.
Janine talked with us about the importance of haircare in the Black community, why we should teach our daughters to set boundaries around others touching their hair and how her curly hair journey led to becoming a resource for transracial adoptive families. We think you will love her as much as we do!
We encourage you to listen in as well as follow her on Instagram @life_with_curlz
We know that applying strategies to help our children calm down, and find peace, when they are out-of-sorts is crucial, but what is the overall goal of re-regulation? That’s our topic in this week’s episode.
Why is it necessary that we are regulated, and respond to our children calmly and firmly? Why do our children need to learn steps to peace that they can eventually apply to their lives on their own? And why is re-regulation so necessary to building trust and a healthy connection with our children? All of these questions may seem obvious, but oftentimes, we misunderstand the big goal of re-regulation strategies. That’s what we’re discussing on our latest episode. Listen in now…
Re-regulation strategies are commonly misconstrued as enabling, or letting off the hook, when a clear consequence for behavior is warranted. However, as caregivers of children with a trauma history, we are working on a bigger picture. In our latest episode we explore why this is…
You’ve probably been there a time or two when your child was dysregulated: extended family, close friends, or even your other children frustrated or angry because, instead of swift correction (which they all believe should happen) you’re talking calmly to your child, as if they had done nothing wrong. It’s a common occurrence that outsiders will misconstrue re-regulation strategies for enabling, or letting of the hook. But that’s not the case. On today’s show, we discuss why that is. Listen in now…
We often do not consider the importance of body awareness when it comes to helping our children re-regulate, but teaching them to connect to the feelings and emotions they are experiencing within their body can be a powerful tool in helping them find a place of peace quickly. Here’s why…
In this week’s edition of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we’re discussing body awareness as it pertains to re-regulation. There are several avenues that body awareness can travel, but when our children can understand their 5 main senses, and how to identify when they’re off base in one, or more, they can find peace quickly. Listen in now…
This post is written by a dad, in hopes of sharing encouragement (and also to brag about his son)
This month is FASD Awareness Month. FASD stands for Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. It is the umbrella title over several diagnoses surrounding drug and alcohol exposure in utero. My son has a FASD. But he’s not defined by it.
“He came in first place!”
My fingers were shaking with joy as I sent this text to my spouse this past Sunday, from the 50th Special Olympics games where my son competed. He had asked me, just before the race, what place I thought he would get. “I don’t know bud. Just go out there and give it your best,” I said encouragingly. “Okay, I will. You’re in for a treat today dad,” he said with that cheesy grin of his that has always brought a smile to our faces.