Understanding The Goal Of Re-Regulation

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 117

We know that applying strategies to help our children calm down, and find peace, when they are out-of-sorts is crucial, but what is the overall goal of re-regulation? That’s our topic in this week’s episode.

Why is it necessary that we are regulated, and respond to our children calmly and firmly? Why do our children need to learn steps to peace that they can eventually apply to their lives on their own? And why is re-regulation so necessary to building trust and a healthy connection with our children? All of these questions may seem obvious, but oftentimes, we misunderstand the big goal of re-regulation strategies. That’s what we’re discussing on our latest episode. Listen in now…

Why Re-regulation Is Not Spoiling Or Enabling

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 116

Re-regulation strategies are commonly misconstrued as enabling, or letting off the hook, when a clear consequence for behavior is warranted. However, as caregivers of children with a trauma history, we are working on a bigger picture. In our latest episode we explore why this is…

You’ve probably been there a time or two when your child was dysregulated: extended family, close friends, or even your other children frustrated or angry because, instead of swift correction (which they all believe should happen) you’re talking calmly to your child, as if they had done nothing wrong. It’s a common occurrence that outsiders will misconstrue re-regulation strategies for enabling, or letting of the hook. But that’s not the case. On today’s show, we discuss why that is. Listen in now…

How Body Awareness Leads To Regulation

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 115

We often do not consider the importance of body awareness when it comes to helping our children re-regulate, but teaching them to connect to the feelings and emotions they are experiencing within their body can be a powerful tool in helping them find a place of peace quickly. Here’s why…

In this week’s edition of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we’re discussing body awareness as it pertains to re-regulation. There are several avenues that body awareness can travel, but when our children can understand their 5 main senses, and how to identify when they’re off base in one, or more, they can find peace quickly. Listen in now…

My Son Has A FASD, But That’s Not His Definition

This post is written by a dad, in hopes of sharing encouragement (and also to brag about his son)

This month is FASD Awareness Month. FASD stands for Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. It is the umbrella title over several diagnoses surrounding drug and alcohol exposure in utero. My son has a FASD. But he’s not defined by it.

“He came in first place!”

My fingers were shaking with joy as I sent this text to my spouse this past Sunday, from the 50th Special Olympics games where my son competed. He had asked me, just before the race, what place I thought he would get. “I don’t know bud. Just go out there and give it your best,” I said encouragingly. “Okay, I will. You’re in for a treat today dad,” he said with that cheesy grin of his that has always brought a smile to our faces.

Why Is Emotional Regulation So Important?

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 114

Your child routinely becomes stressed, anxious, or wiggly, and you have no idea what is going on, or even what you can do to help them. We get it. That’s why our brand new podcast series is all about how to parent through this.

We know that some children with trauma histories can display extreme behaviors (aggression, belligerence, disrespect, or even violence). But what about the child who deals with major anxiety, stress, nervousness, or often seems physically out of control of his or her body? That’s where emotional regulation is key. But what does that mean? Check out our latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast where we discuss this. Listen in now…

Learning To Thrive On The Adoption Journey

In this special episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we are pleased to share with you, a sneak peak into our 12-month online coaching group with parents from all over the world.

Part of membership to our online coaching group, Thrive, is a ticket to our in-person meet up in Indianapolis at the end of the 12 months. Last weekend we met and discussed Co-Regulation and Re-Regulation strategies you can apply when your child is anxious, stressed, overwhelmed, or melts down easily. It’s all part of helping parents THRIVE on the adoption and foster care journey. Listen in now…

Missing Her First Steps, But Being Here Now

This post was written by our friend and special guest, Michelle, a lovely adoptive momma, who chooses to make the most of every moment.

We often enter into our children’s lives later in the game which makes bonding and attachment difficult. But we must realize that we are here in this moment, now, and we must make that count…

Children come to us through adoption at many ages and stages of life. Our older 2 came to us as infants. We got to bathe their slippery little bodies in that blue padded infant tub, with the just-right water temperature. We were awakened in the middle of the night with their hunger cries and fed them their bottle while being sleep deprived. We giggled as they were learning to sit and toppled over on the mattress because of their over-sized heads. We introduced them to baby cereal and watched as they made a horrible mess smacking their lips, but never really getting any in their mouth. We became frustrated once they graduated to the highchair, smearing finger foods in their hair, but also having figured out the fun game of repeatedly throwing things on the floor.

To The Parent Who Is Struggling…I See You!

This post is written by an adoptive dad who writes with such honesty and hope, we know you will appreciate this as much as we do!

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and isolated on the parenting journey. Especially when your children are struggling and you feel you don’t know how to help. But there is hope in the midst of the struggle…

I remember the first time I felt that isolating feeling. You know the one I’m talking about, right? As if you’re standing in the middle of a crowded room, surrounded by people who are talking, laughing, hugging, and joking, but you feel unseen. You wonder if you screamed at the top of your lungs, or began throwing a massive temper tantrum in the middle of the crowd, if anyone would stop and take notice?