How To Recognize Triggers During The Holidays

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 15, Episode 122

The Holiday season can bring up lots of memories, feelings of loss, or anxiety for our children. Those emotions can quickly lead to triggered behavior. But how do you recognize the triggers and respond to them appropriately?

We can mark our calendars every year. October 31st until January 2nd are going to be…interesting, to say the least. Lots of overstimulation, mixed with anxiety, mixed with big expectations, mixed with let down, and memories of loss. It’s a massive cocktail stirring within our children. In our latest podcast episode we discuss strategies you can use to not only recognize the triggers before they go off, but respond in a way that brings healing and connection this holiday season. Listen to the episode now…

How To Connect With First Families During The Holidays

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 15, Episode 121

We’ve officially entered into the holiday season. That means Christmas parties, twinkling lights, frosty window panes, and potentially high emotions for some of our children. In this brand new podcast series, we’re walking you through key how-to’s when it comes to successfully navigating the holiday season.

Our children will always have two families. It’s something we need to accept. And the holiday season can bring up feelings of deep loss and separation. As far as it depends on us, we must work to preserve the connection between our children and their first families, especially during this season. But how? In this episode, we explore some key steps to building healthy connections with first families. Listen to the episode…

How To Help Your Child Regulate During The Holidays

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 120

It’s November 1st. Halloween decorations are being replaced with turkey cut-outs and corn-a-capias on front doors. Soon, Christmas lights will dawn those same homes. It’s officially the holiday season. But for foster and adoptive families, this can mean dysregulation city! How do you help your children stay calm and regulated during this season?

It’s tricky, but there are some key steps you can take to navigate the holidays with your children and find success. You may even find that often-elusive peace. It begins by being intentional with planning, boundary-setting, awareness of what your children need, and a few other things. Listen in to our discussion now…

Thoughts On Hair Care And Support For Transracial Adoptees

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 119

Are you a transracial adoptive family, foster family or mixed race family? Are you a person with fantastic curly hair? Whoever you are and whatever type of hair you have, you will love Janine Beachy. She was a true delight to interview.

Janine talked with us about the importance of haircare in the Black community, why we should teach our daughters to set boundaries around others touching their hair and how her curly hair journey led to becoming a resource for transracial adoptive families. We think you will love her as much as we do!

We encourage you to listen in as well as follow her on Instagram @life_with_curlz

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Thoughts On Adoption From A Transracial Adoptee

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- LEADING VOICES SPOTLIGHT- Season 14, Episode 118

One of the greatest resources for us as adoptive and foster parents is adoptees, and adoptee’s voices. We are fortunate to partner with many adoptees from all ages and walks of life. We have learned so much from them, and will continue to do so. On the latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are pleased to welcome transracial adoptee and advocate, Torie DiMartile.

Torie is a transracial adoptee on a lifelong journey toward an integrated and celebrated racial identity. She grew up one of two biracial African American/Caucasian children in a white Italian-American home in Kentucky. From multicultural bedtime stories, to the 1% ‘of color’ at her independent high school, navigating life as a biracial adoptee has taken varying degrees of emotional investment and energy throughout her life. She is a blogger and thought-leader at Wreckage & Wonder. On today’s episode she gives valuable insight and understanding into the transracial adoption journey and what we can do, as parents, to better care for, and lead, our children. Listen to the episode now…

Understanding The Goal Of Re-Regulation

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 117

We know that applying strategies to help our children calm down, and find peace, when they are out-of-sorts is crucial, but what is the overall goal of re-regulation? That’s our topic in this week’s episode.

Why is it necessary that we are regulated, and respond to our children calmly and firmly? Why do our children need to learn steps to peace that they can eventually apply to their lives on their own? And why is re-regulation so necessary to building trust and a healthy connection with our children? All of these questions may seem obvious, but oftentimes, we misunderstand the big goal of re-regulation strategies. That’s what we’re discussing on our latest episode. Listen in now…

Why Re-regulation Is Not Spoiling Or Enabling

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 116

Re-regulation strategies are commonly misconstrued as enabling, or letting off the hook, when a clear consequence for behavior is warranted. However, as caregivers of children with a trauma history, we are working on a bigger picture. In our latest episode we explore why this is…

You’ve probably been there a time or two when your child was dysregulated: extended family, close friends, or even your other children frustrated or angry because, instead of swift correction (which they all believe should happen) you’re talking calmly to your child, as if they had done nothing wrong. It’s a common occurrence that outsiders will misconstrue re-regulation strategies for enabling, or letting of the hook. But that’s not the case. On today’s show, we discuss why that is. Listen in now…

How Body Awareness Leads To Regulation

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 115

We often do not consider the importance of body awareness when it comes to helping our children re-regulate, but teaching them to connect to the feelings and emotions they are experiencing within their body can be a powerful tool in helping them find a place of peace quickly. Here’s why…

In this week’s edition of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we’re discussing body awareness as it pertains to re-regulation. There are several avenues that body awareness can travel, but when our children can understand their 5 main senses, and how to identify when they’re off base in one, or more, they can find peace quickly. Listen in now…