How I Found Love, Joy, And Hope This Holiday

The Holidays. The season of perpetual joy. The thrill of hope! But often, this time of season can bring stress and anxiety upon us that is all-consuming. How can you ever find the hope, love and joy that Christmas is supposed to be about?


Oh Christmas, my favorite holiday. Well, it was my favorite holiday until this year. I have a fondness for the lights, the music, and the parties. This season brings wonderful feelings of love, joy and hope. It also brings an impossible amount of pressure. The panic hits me every year mid-December. But this year has been the worst.

Just last week, I sat in the parking lot outside of our local mall. An unseasonably violent thunderstorm was unleashing its wrath. I was clutching my phone in one hand and a battered Christmas list in the other. My mom was the unfortunate one on the receiving end of my tearful phone conversation. “I hate everything about this holiday, Mom. I’m serious. I can’t think of anything I like about it. I’m a terrible gift giver and I’m sure I’ve forgotten someone. I will never live up to anyone’s expectations. I didn’t take my kids to the zoo, the museum or Christmas caroling. We didn’t bake cookies, not one cookie. Who am I kidding? I don’t even know how to bake cookies. I hate baking cookies, I just feel like I should do it anyway. Everyone bakes cookies except me! I’m outside this mall and I know I’m going to buy the wrong thing. I just can’t get my children and my granddaughter all the things everyone else can. I wouldn’t want to if I could. I just want to spend time with them. I just want to slow down. I think it’s supposed to be simpler than this. I don’t feel any love, I don’t have any joy, I can’t hope for this to be better.” I finally paused to take a breath.

My mom paused before answering. “I think you’re right. Don’t do all the extra stuff. Don’t worry about other’s expectations. Who cares what kinds of presents others are giving? You know that’s not what this is all about anyway. You don’t need to think about what everyone else is doing. Just enjoy your family and celebrate the way that is good for you.” My mom is a smart lady and I was pretty tired from my mini tantrum. “Thanks mom. Sorry about that.” I hung up the phone and sat there alone for a long time. What is it about this Christmas that has me feeling so empty? I’ve been asking myself that a lot recently. This year my focus has been on classroom parties, food allergies, gift lists, IEP reviews and countless other frustrating tasks. I flop down on the couch at the end of each exhausting day and compare our holiday to what I see on Pinterest, Facebook and Instagram. I close my eyes each night, antsy with anxiety and I can only think about getting to the day after Christmas. I’m surrounded by a façade of perfection and I have no hope of actually attaining it.

The rain continued to beat against the window and I turned the volume up on the Christmas radio station. That’s when I heard just the words I needed to hear. “The thrill of hope the weary world rejoices, for yonder breaks a new and glorious morn.” I let tears fall and sang every word from memory. I sang out loud and didn’t even look around to see if anyone was watching. My voice caught on those words again, “the thrill of hope.” We celebrate Christmas because it is a day set aside to remember the birth of our savior. A baby, sent to a broken world to restore its glory. A child sent to be a unique kind of king. The first Christmas began in poverty and obscurity.

The first Christmas took place in a barn. The first to celebrate were shepherds, cows and sheep. Those who came around Jesus on that night knelt before him, in reverence. They did not scramble to find the perfect gift. They did not try to outdo the shepherd standing beside them. They did not worry about what presents the child might receive after they left. They gave the gift of utter simplicity, they fell to their knees in awe. I knew what I had to do. I turned the key into the ignition and left the parking lot without buying one more thing.

I went home and embraced my family and the holiday. I stopped buying presents and started focusing on relationships. I accepted that I may not be the Mother or Grandma that spoils with gifts but I could be the Mom and “MiMi” that spoils with time. The next day I got the opportunity to spend the day with my granddaughter. We read Christmas stories together, went for a walk and played in the backyard. She climbed up the couch to pull ornaments off the tree, giggling at her own resourcefulness. My heart was filled with love. The following day, our family had the opportunity to help our friends move to their new home in the city. My children painted the walls, ceilings, and my hair. We met new friends and laughed till we cried. When it was time to pray a blessing over their home, my heart was filled with joy.

On Christmas Eve, we ate turkey soup, visited neighbors and worshipped at the loveliest, simple service. We hugged old friends and shed tears of joy as we sang about the story of the first Christmas. We closed with O Holy Night and as the melody surrounded me, “The thrill of hope, the weary world rejoices,” my weary soul rejoiced and my heart felt hope!

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