While we all wish that every adoption might lead to a healthy, thriving family, the truth is that the challenges can sometimes be more than a family can handle. What happens when a struggling adoptive family comes to the place of deciding it just isn’t going to work? Adoption dissolution, more commonly referred to as adoption disruption, is a topic that is often avoided and one we haven’t covered before on The Honestly Adoption Podcast.
This week, Mike is interviewing Lori Word, a new friend he met at CAFO this year, to talk about adopting from disruption. Lori and her husband have been married for 29 years and have spent most of that in full time ministry. Lori and her husband have adopted 7 children from disruptions and now have a passion for helping to equip adoptive families to find resources to help adopted children stay in their homes and avoid disruption if possible.
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Feeling isolated and alone? Have you found it hard to connect with other foster or adoptive parents in your area? Maybe there aren’t many in your area. Even if you do have a great support system in real life, maybe you are looking for more training and resources to help you navigate this journey?
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Community is so unbelievably important to achieving health and success with your kiddos on this journey. Even if the journey is easier for some and harder for others. We’re all in this together and we need one another.
Have you ever met an adoptive family that seems to have it easy? Like not only was their process smooth, but their kid just hasn’t seemed to skip a beat. No health issues. No physical issues. No mental health issues. No IEPs. No developmental delays. No sibling rivalry issues. No letters for a diagnosis the majority of the world doesn’t understand issues. No phone calls from school issues. No law enforcement issues. And no holes-in-your-walls issues.
Maybe your child(ren) don’t have a noticeable special need or an official diagnosis and you’ve been wondering if you are just crazy, or if anyone else understands. When it looks “normal” to everyone outside of the home, the day to day frustrations of dealing with invisible special needs can make foster and adoptive parents feel isolated and judged by those who just don’t get it.
This month, Mike is interviewing Jamie Worley, adoption blogger at seejamieblog.com, which was one of Healthline.com’s 2018 Best Adoption Blogs. Jamie is passionate about encouraging other adoptive families and helping to educate those considering foster care and adoption. Don’t miss this opportunity to be encouraged with some practical steps and words of hope in understanding and dealing with the invisible special needs of adoption.
It’s a common question in our society. We all wonder if we are capable of such a hard task. Those of us who are seasoned usually find out we most definitely are not capable at all because so much more plays into it. Outside our group, it’s phrased as more of an exclamation. “Not everyone should adopt!” It seems they feel judged and maybe that I think of them as less than for not doing such a “noble” task.
I’ve observed/know of/heard of many families who started the journey of adoption where it worked great. Most just worked, but maybe not great. I’ve also observed those that started the journey and then it didn’t work. Like all things went TERRIBLY wrong. There is no cookie cutter answer or family for this job.
We’ve made it to the end of another school year which means IEP reviews, final meetings with teachers and administrators, and directional decisions for the upcoming school year for foster/adoptive families. For some, it also means deciding whether or not to hold their child back a grade to give them more time, or help navigate their special needs. How do you help your child cope with this reality?
This is a hard one. I’m just gonna say it. Your precious child may already view themselves in a dim light. They may already think they’re stupid or unworthy. The fact that they’ve been adopted or are currently in foster care may overshadow their view of anything positive, and being held back a grade may just drive this viewpoint deeper. That’s why it’s important that you’re intentionally on the scene with them to help them process their grief.
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