Let’s Talk About The Need For Community

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 16, Episode 128

One of the most important ways we can take better care of ourselves, maximize this new year, and maintain health as a parent, is through a strong connection to others. But how do you find this?

On the foster and adoptive parenting journey, we need fellow parents in our corner. There’s no way we can maintain a healthy perspective, nor find the encouragement we need to keep moving forward without a strong support community around us. As we wrap up the podcast series, New Year, New You, the most important message we can leave you with, is the message of community. Listen to the episode now…

What Can I Do When My Child Needs Discipline?

We know that children with a trauma history do not respond well to traditional parenting methods, especially when it comes to discipline. How then do you discipline and set boundaries with them when it’s necessary?

The truth is, your child is going to make mistakes, they are going to become dysregulated, they will need discipline, and they are going to require you to to set boundaries. This is a crucial part of parenting, regardless of your specific situation. Even though connection and trust-building are at the top of the list when you’re parenting children with a history of trauma, boundaries are a must.

Should I Talk To My Child About Their Past Trauma?

It’s a question many of us have wrestled over on this journey. Should we or should we not talk to our child about his or her past trauma? Here are some thoughts…

It’s a conversation we’ve found ourselves in quite often. Many parents believe it’s not a healthy topic of conversation to have with or in front of your children. Others lean on openness and honesty. We lean that way too, but with one big question first…

Let’s Talk About Creating Structure

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 16, Episode 127

We’re continuing our new podcast series called New Year, New You with an episode about the great need for structure, creating a routine, and how you can implement both even if you haven’t to this point on your parenting journey.

Chaos. Utter and complete chaos. That describes most days on the foster and adoptive parenting journey. Heck, that describes most days for parents in general. The surefire way to overcome chaos and begin to move toward peace and consistency is through structure, and a consistent routine that you follow with your family. In today’s episode, Mike discusses principles that can help you achieve this. Listen to the episode now…

How To Establish A Solid Safety Plan In Your Home

Safety plans are not an abnormal part of the foster and adoptive journey. In fact, they’re necessary for many reasons. But how do you create and maintain a safety plan that keeps everyone in your home safe?

It’s easy to panic when you hear the words ‘safety’ and ‘plan’ in the same sentence. After all, when we were growing up, dreaming of becoming parents someday, those two words were probably not in our vocabulary. However, children who have a trauma history need structure, and a big part of that structure is a safety plan.

Let’s Talk About Your Finances

We’re in Episode 2 of our new podcast series entitled New Year, New You. This series is all about maximizing your opportunity in a brand new year.

Finances. Wow! Sticky subject. Especially right after the Holidays. But it’s a crucial topic and there are simply ways you can maximize your money, even if you have a small budget (which a lot of us on the foster and adoptive journey do). Our good friend Chad Johnson, from Blue Financial Coaching joins us to explain some simple methods to make our budget go a long way. Listen to the episode…

Let’s Talk Self Care!

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 16, Episode 125

It’s a brand New Year! 2020 has finally arrived which means a brand new start. But with everything happening on this journey, how do we start fresh? This brand new podcast series will help answer that question.

Let’s be honest. New Year’s Resolutions often don’t last very long. Statistically speaking, most people totally abandon their resolutions by the end of January. Even goals are hard to maintain for an entire year. Where does that leave us? In the midst of exhausting and busy days, parenting children with trauma histories, we do need to take steps toward change. But it doesn’t have to be difficult. Often, simple changes are the key. In this first episode of our brand new series, New Year, New You, Mike talks self care. Listen now…

To The Parent Ready To Give Up: “I See You!”

This is a guest post by Jennie Owens. Jennie and her husband, Lynn, have parented over 100 children and worked with thousands of families. Together, they founded Forever Homes, a non-profit organization that seeks to support, encourage, and empower foster and adoptive families. Jennie has an MA in Education and extensive training in trauma-informed care and therapeutic parenting. She provides trainings at conferences, schools, retreats, and workshops.

This journey is hard at times. We fight for our children, but often feel alone, wondering if there’s anyone who understands the needs our children have. As we step into this New Year, we want you to know….you are not alone!

You started out this journey into foster care and adoption full of hope and determination. Now you’re not even sure you can make it to the next day.

I’ve been there. I see you. You are not alone.