Introducing: Believing Beyond The Behavior

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 18, Episode 139

Your child’s behavior is routinely agitated, anxious, aggressive, violent, or impulsive. And you’re exhausted. You don’t know how you can make it one more day. But you must. How do you keep going? Our new podcast series will walk you through this and so much more…

Next Thursday, May 14th, we are kicking off a brand new 6 week podcast series all about believing beyond the behavior. Through this series we’re going to help you gain new perspective on your child’s behavior, plus the tools to parent differently. Listen in now to learn more…

Your Badly Behaved Child Is NOT A Bad Child

I used to believe that my child was just being bad. I was convinced that he was a bad kid who just wanted to make our lives hell. But then I discovered some truth that totally transformed everything I thought, and most importantly, the way I reacted!

There are stories throughout history of people coming into the light of understanding. Call it transformation, if you will. These moments were life-altering for not only the person who experienced it, but those who were close to them as well. The Apostle Paul hated Christians and was actually responsible for killing many because he believed in an ideal, or a narrative playing out in his mind. And then he came face to face with the truth. He stepped into the light, and it transformed him.

How Do You Know When It’s Time For Residential Treatment?

6 Signs That Give You A Clear Answer.

It’s one of the worst decisions you may have to make for your child on the journey of foster care and adoption. Placing your child in a residential treatment facility is never easy. But how do you know when the time is right to do so?

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We’ve been down this road 3 separate times in the past. We know exactly how it goes: Your family is on pins and needles. You cautiously move through your house on a daily basis as if you’re walking across a frozen lake that may collapse at any moment. Looking at your child the wrong way could send them into a tirade. Your spouse, and other children, have experienced so much secondary trauma you hardly know how you’ll recover as a family.

5 Lessons I’ve Learned From Parenting A Child With FASD.

Ten years ago our oldest son was diagnosed with Alcohol-Related-Nuerodevelopmental-Disorder (ARND), very similar to Fetal-Alcohol-Spectrum-Disorder (FASD), and our lives have been a rollercoaster ride ever since. Recently, however, we’ve begun learning new lessons about him, ourselves, and what we need to do differently.

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Defeating. That’s the word that comes to mind when I recount the past decade of parenting our son. He is on the fetal-alcohol spectrum. His brain suffered irreversible damage when he was in his birth mother’s womb. The result has been violence, aggression, impulsion, even run-ins with police, the older he becomes.