How To Begin Believing In More

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 18, Episode 140

There’s more happening with your child than just bad behavior. In fact, there are reasons why he or she behaves the way they do. But before we can make sense of this, we must lay the foundation for believing in more.

It begins with a different mindset. You cannot take your child’s behavior at face-value. Because of his or her trauma history, there present behaviors are often the expression of an unmet need, a fear, or an anxiety. But this present behavior does not determine their future. How do you begin to believe there is more than what you are experiencing right now? Listen to the episode…

Living In Your New Normal (Part 2): Adjusting

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 17, Episode 136

The COVID-19 pandemic has changed life for the human race. It has especially left its mark on foster and adoptive families. After the grieving process is in full swing, how do you and your children adjust to the new normal?

If your family is anything like ours, the grief over a new normal set in pretty fast. Graduation ceremonies, prom, spending time with friends, going to the mall, grabbing a cup of coffee, even going to the movies…all gone in a flash. But after the grief is in full swing, we must begin to adjust to a new way of life. How can we lead our children in this effectively as effectively as possible? We discuss in today’s episode. Listen now…

How To Help Our Children Navigate The Trauma Of Coronavirus

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 17, Episode 133

We are in unprecedented and uncharted territory with the Coronavirus outbreak. In fact, the landscape of life is changing quickly because of it. How do we help our children navigate the anxiety, stress, and added trauma of all of this?

If you’re anything like us, it’s been a week. We’ve all mostly stayed at home, helplessly standing by while school gets cancelled, spring sports get postponed, church services cease, and life as we know it changes day by day. And, it may be far from over. In the middle of this added stress, is the added fear and anxiety that children, who have a trauma history, are experiencing. How do we help them navigate through this? How do we, as caregivers cope? In this special episode, Mike offers some advice. Listen now…

How To Manage Downtime During The Holidays

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 15, Episode 124

It’s Part 4 of our Holiday How-To Guide, and in this episode we’re giving you practical strategies for managing the (often) dreaded downtime during Christmas!

You know how this goes. It’s the school year, and it it certainly has its own struggles. The constant on-the-go of Monday through Friday, and then sports, church, and get-togethers sprinkled in makes the grind a bit exhausting. But it’s structured. It’s routine. What do you do when that changes and you’re suddenly in the middle of Christmas break, with little to no routine, and the meltdowns are starting to arise? On today’s episode we’re answering that very question. Listen in now…

Why Is Emotional Regulation So Important?

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 114

Your child routinely becomes stressed, anxious, or wiggly, and you have no idea what is going on, or even what you can do to help them. We get it. That’s why our brand new podcast series is all about how to parent through this.

We know that some children with trauma histories can display extreme behaviors (aggression, belligerence, disrespect, or even violence). But what about the child who deals with major anxiety, stress, nervousness, or often seems physically out of control of his or her body? That’s where emotional regulation is key. But what does that mean? Check out our latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast where we discuss this. Listen in now…

Will The World Ever Understand My Child’s Disorder?

This post was written by Mike, an adoptive dad who is familiar with the ins and outs of special needs parenting, to encourage caregivers to support our children well.

From frustrating IEP meetings, to disagreeable doctors, inappropriate church goers, and nosey neighbors. The world is full of people who think we’re making our child’s disorder up, or just misunderstand our reality altogether. The question is, will they ever understand?

No. They won’t. Actually, let me change that…probably…most likely not. This can be a bitter pill to swallow, I know. It is good to begin with an attitude of hopefulness but at the end of the day, many people will not understand your child’s struggles. Disorders like FASDs (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders) oppositional defiance disorder, attachment disorder, or separation anxieties (to name a few) are misunderstood, if not ignored completely.

The Behavior Isn’t Manipulation, It’s Survival!

It’s easy to view your child’s behavior as manipulation, but there’s something deeper going on that is hard to see on the surface…

I press my fingers into the temples of my head because I’m so…unbelievably…done!  I can’t take one more second of the manipulation…the lies…the conniving…the sneakiness!

Dear Frustrated Parent, There’s Hope For More!

There are days when you may struggle to believe that your child is ever going to be able to make it on their own, do the right thing, or even make safe choices. But I believe, there is hope for more!

Can I just be honest for a second. This past Sunday I’d had it with my child. HAD it! I was beyond frustrated with the behaviors. We had finally made it to church after weeks of not being there, and I plopped into my seat in the back row, hopeless!