Should You Foster Or Adopt Out Of Birth Order?

It’s something prospective parents, or those considering the journey again, have wondered: Should I or should I not foster or adopt out of birth order? Here are some thoughts…

I once met with a couple who were adamant about their adoption experience. They had to (and I mean had to) adopt their children in age order. It was a must! It was the law, as far as they were concerned. As I looked them both in the eye, and listened to the high pitches in their tone as they shared their vision, I knew they were serious. They had signed up to be foster parents, not necessarily intending to adopt every child they fostered, but were open to it. 

How We Are Un-Twinning Our Artificial Twins.

Artificial Twinning can be a hot button subject within the adoptive community. Artificial twins or virtual twins are two non-biological siblings who are born within the same year. Most adoption experts caution against this practice, sighting the potential for damage to the individual child’s identity. We had never giving the subject much thought until we adopted our first daughter.


Our adoption agency was adamantly against artificial twinning or adopting out of birth order. We listened and absorbed that wisdom and agreed that our daughter would always remain the oldest child in our family.