The words ‘vulnerable’ and ‘men’ are usually not mentioned in the same sentence with one another, let alone associated with each other. Yet every fall, in the mountains of Colorado, the two words connect and form a transformational experience for foster and adoptive dads.
In 2016, sensing an urgency to create safe space where foster and adoptive dads could connect with one another, Mike Berry, Andrew Schneidler and Jason Morriss, created Road Trip: A Mountaintop Experience for Foster and Adoptive Dads. They had one goal: create safe space where men could be open, honest, and vulnerable in without fear of judgement or criticism. To date, more than 400 men have journeyed up the mountain. In this latest episode, they share openly what Road Trip is, and why it’s so transformational in men’s lives. Listen to the episode…
This coming Sunday is Father’s Day. While most of the comments we foster and adoptive dads receive are cordial, and respectful, there are always a handful that are not. Here’s a little insight into things you shouldn’t say to foster and adoptive dads on this special day (written, of course, for you to “share” with the people in your life who really don’t get it!)
My brother-in-law’s heart probably drained from his chest like melted wax. Had his breath not been taken away by the off-handed comment, he would have found the words to speak, I’m sure. It was his first Father’s Day when someone in his church crushed his spirit and left him bewildered. “Happy Father’s Day. I mean, you’re like a pseudo-father right? So, Happy pseudo-Father’s Day!” the person uttered. If someone would have walked around the corner and dumped cold water over my brother-in-law’s head, he would have been less shocked.
If you’re a spouse and your husband just won’t get on board with adoption, it’s easy to become frustrated. But, there’s a better way to approach the subject.
As I mentioned in last week’s episode, in the early years of our adoption journey, I was pretty resistant to the whole idea. Not because I was against adoption, I just didn’t understand it. In last week’s podcast, we talked about the ‘why’ behind the resistance that many men have felt as they’ve begun the adoption journey. On today’s episode, we’re concluding this 2-part series by discussion practical ways spouses can help their husbands overcome the resistance he may feel.
It’s a common thread we read in emails and comments from adoptive families. Everyone is excited about their adoption except their extended family. Is there anyway to change this?
I’m going to be brutally honest here. Extended families (moms, dads, aunts, uncles, brothers and sisters) can be the worst supporters when you’re starting out on the adoptive journey. In fact, some of the stories we’ve heard recently wouldn’t even qualify as support. They’re anything but. Personally, we haven’t experienced this. We are blessed to have two amazing families on both sides who have always supported our family and our decision to adopt. But we’ve spent lots of time with people who aren’t as fortunate.
It’s Father’s Day weekend, 2016, and we thought we’d bring a smile to your face by sharing this hilarious video from The Holderness Family (one of our favorite families in the world)…
We don’t know about you, but we’re laughing because this video is freakishly spot on to the life of a dad. Men, have a fun and safe Father’s Day weekend, and be cautious when lighting your grills….or your farts!