The words ‘vulnerable’ and ‘men’ are usually not mentioned in the same sentence with one another, let alone associated with each other. Yet every fall, in the mountains of Colorado, the two words connect and form a transformational experience for foster and adoptive dads.
In 2016, sensing an urgency to create safe space where foster and adoptive dads could connect with one another, Mike Berry, Andrew Schneidler and Jason Morriss, created Road Trip: A Mountaintop Experience for Foster and Adoptive Dads. They had one goal: create safe space where men could be open, honest, and vulnerable in without fear of judgement or criticism. To date, more than 400 men have journeyed up the mountain. In this latest episode, they share openly what Road Trip is, and why it’s so transformational in men’s lives. Listen to the episode…
When I first began the adoption journey, more than 15 years ago, I resisted. But it wasn’t because I was against adoption. There was something else at play in the background of my life.
It always catches people off guard when I tell them this truth about myself. For as big of an advocate as I am today, it’s hard to believe this little tidbit about me. But, it’s true. Thankfully, my heart changed not long after we began the process, and I never looked back. I couldn’t have dreamed up a more beautiful storyline for our family. I’ve discovered there are many men who go through what I went through. And much like me, it’s not that they’re against adoption. In a 2-part series on our podcast, that’s what my co-host Matt McCarrick and I are discussing.
In a world that is noisy, fast-paced, and often all-consuming, it’s easy for us to forget that our children need our love on a daily basis. But if we want to be sure they know we love them we must answer some big questions.
It was a gusty day and my mind was on catching a flight to Kansas City, as I drove through our crowded city streets. My daughters had to be dropped off at school because their Social Studies projects would surely fall apart if taken on the bus.
I’ve come to a realization with fatherhood. Mostly, it’s due to my own self-evaluation. For decades now, men across the globe have worked hard to be good dads for their kids. I have too. But is good really good enough?
The world is full of good dads. Really good dads, in fact. Everywhere I look, I see good dads. Dads who coach little league, dads who drive their kids to school, dads who attend school functions, dads who take their daughter to a “Daddy-Daugther dance,” dads who play in the backyard with their family on a Sunday afternoon, dads who take their sons fishing…Good dads!
Every now and then, when I least expect it, I receive a text, an email, a Tweet, or a Facebook comment that leaves me speechless. The other day that happened.
It was a normal, fairly productive day, for the most part. The summer sun was up and shining bright, we had crossed off errands from our list, and we even bought a new sofa for a much lower price than we expected. A win as far as we were concerned. Honestly, for the past few weeks we’ve been adjusting to our special summer schedule, where my wife works in the morning while I’m home with our kids, then we flip flop in the afternoon.