How To Become A Connected Parent

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 18, Episode 147

Have you ever wondered if there was some secret to forming a better connection with your child? In the midst of meltdowns, defiant behaviors, or dysregulation, wouldn’t it be nice if you had a script to work from to help them re-regulate quickly? If so, you won’t want to miss our latest episode of the podcast…

Lisa Qualls is an author, blogger, public speaker, podcaster, and the co-author of the latest book, The Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment. She co-authored this book with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, PhD, founder of the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at Texas Christian University. Our conversation, in this episode, centers on the how, behind becoming a connected parent. You will love this interview. Listen now…

How A Former Foster Youth Is Telling A Different Adoption Story

Amplifying Black Voices- The Honestly Adoption Podcast

As we continue to amplify and highlight black voices, we are pleased to share a recent interview we did with Tori Peterson who is a former foster youth, now foster and adoptive mom.

Tori Petersen is amazing, and is actively changing the story of adoption and foster care in the United States. She spends her time advocating, on a national level, for better services for children in foster care. Make sure you check out her Instagram hereListen to the interview….

How To Empower Your Children To Face Difficult Situations

In this world, our children will struggle, oftentimes more than typically developing children. How do we help them, or empower them, to face these difficult situations? Here are some tips…

Foster care and adoption are difficult. There will be hard parts to our child’s story. It is inevitable. Our children will see some things in their past as normal and others as difficult. It isn’t for us to decide which parts are difficult for our children. This is why it is so important that our children feel empowered to deal with the hard parts. Here are some things we can do to help:

How Can I Empower Children With Two Families To Embrace Their Own Identity?

Foster and adoptive families are far from the traditional family unit in many ways. The biggest difference is that our children come from two families. How do we help them embrace their own identity as they grow into adulthood?

We are a multiracial, multigenerational, multicultural family. We have our own identity as a family, and it is unique to us. It includes the things we laugh at, the movies we watch, our traditions, and our inside jokes. It includes a set of values and expectations we live by. This is a very important part of our identity, but it is not our entire identity.

How Will Understanding My Child’s Trauma Help Me As A Parent?

We have said this repeatedly over the past 5 years. When you gain an understanding of how trauma has changed your child, your entire parenting journey will change. Here’s why…

I will never forget the moment my mind was fully opened to the reality of what our children have experienced and why they do and say the things they do at times. It was Christmastime, six years ago. On a cold December night, something triggered our child, who has a trauma history. We were popping popcorn, pulling out blankets, and settling down in our family room for a family movie night. For reasons that remain a mystery, he wasn’t having any of it.

How Can I Empower My Child To Process The Good Parts Of Their Story?

Celebration seems like a normal part of our humanity, but for children who have experienced great loss, the ability to celebrate isn’t a given. How can we empower our children to process the good parts of their story?

 Have you ever met a person who seems to sabotage every good thing? Do you know someone who avoids family gatherings, such as Thanksgiving or Christmas? How about someone who always seems to see the glass half empty? The child who cannot seem to relax and have a good time may simply not know how.

How To Begin Believing In More

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 18, Episode 140

There’s more happening with your child than just bad behavior. In fact, there are reasons why he or she behaves the way they do. But before we can make sense of this, we must lay the foundation for believing in more.

It begins with a different mindset. You cannot take your child’s behavior at face-value. Because of his or her trauma history, there present behaviors are often the expression of an unmet need, a fear, or an anxiety. But this present behavior does not determine their future. How do you begin to believe there is more than what you are experiencing right now? Listen to the episode…

Introducing: Believing Beyond The Behavior

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 18, Episode 139

Your child’s behavior is routinely agitated, anxious, aggressive, violent, or impulsive. And you’re exhausted. You don’t know how you can make it one more day. But you must. How do you keep going? Our new podcast series will walk you through this and so much more…

Next Thursday, May 14th, we are kicking off a brand new 6 week podcast series all about believing beyond the behavior. Through this series we’re going to help you gain new perspective on your child’s behavior, plus the tools to parent differently. Listen in now to learn more…