How To Become A Connected Parent

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 18, Episode 147

Have you ever wondered if there was some secret to forming a better connection with your child? In the midst of meltdowns, defiant behaviors, or dysregulation, wouldn’t it be nice if you had a script to work from to help them re-regulate quickly? If so, you won’t want to miss our latest episode of the podcast…

Lisa Qualls is an author, blogger, public speaker, podcaster, and the co-author of the latest book, The Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment. She co-authored this book with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, PhD, founder of the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at Texas Christian University. Our conversation, in this episode, centers on the how, behind becoming a connected parent. You will love this interview. Listen now…

How To Empower Your Children To Face Difficult Situations

In this world, our children will struggle, oftentimes more than typically developing children. How do we help them, or empower them, to face these difficult situations? Here are some tips…

Foster care and adoption are difficult. There will be hard parts to our child’s story. It is inevitable. Our children will see some things in their past as normal and others as difficult. It isn’t for us to decide which parts are difficult for our children. This is why it is so important that our children feel empowered to deal with the hard parts. Here are some things we can do to help:

What #BlackLivesMatter Means To A White Mom.

We’re a multi-racial family of 10. The events of these past few weeks have shaken us to the core. They’ve prompted fear in our children and left us broken and on edge as their parents. This is what #BlackLivesMatter means to me…

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I want to go back.

This picture was taken on a trip to Disney World in. Our youngest daughter was just about to turn 3. The only thing she loved more than Cinderella’s castle was her daddy. He had just raced through the streets of the theme park toward the castle with his little girls clasped in each arm. “The princesses are arriving!” He shouted. They giggled with glee and I trailed behind with our son in the stroller. I rolled my eyes at the absurdity of it but I couldn’t stop laughing. His happiness was in his daughters’ delight. He would bring them the world to make them smile. His joy poured from him and reflected in their faces.

How Will Understanding My Child’s Trauma Help Me As A Parent?

We have said this repeatedly over the past 5 years. When you gain an understanding of how trauma has changed your child, your entire parenting journey will change. Here’s why…

I will never forget the moment my mind was fully opened to the reality of what our children have experienced and why they do and say the things they do at times. It was Christmastime, six years ago. On a cold December night, something triggered our child, who has a trauma history. We were popping popcorn, pulling out blankets, and settling down in our family room for a family movie night. For reasons that remain a mystery, he wasn’t having any of it.

How Can I Empower My Child To Process The Good Parts Of Their Story?

Celebration seems like a normal part of our humanity, but for children who have experienced great loss, the ability to celebrate isn’t a given. How can we empower our children to process the good parts of their story?

 Have you ever met a person who seems to sabotage every good thing? Do you know someone who avoids family gatherings, such as Thanksgiving or Christmas? How about someone who always seems to see the glass half empty? The child who cannot seem to relax and have a good time may simply not know how.

How To Begin Believing In More

The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Season 18, Episode 140

There’s more happening with your child than just bad behavior. In fact, there are reasons why he or she behaves the way they do. But before we can make sense of this, we must lay the foundation for believing in more.

It begins with a different mindset. You cannot take your child’s behavior at face-value. Because of his or her trauma history, there present behaviors are often the expression of an unmet need, a fear, or an anxiety. But this present behavior does not determine their future. How do you begin to believe there is more than what you are experiencing right now? Listen to the episode…

In The Middle Of A Crisis, Our Families Are Strong!

We are living in unprecedented times right now. Some of us parents are being tested to the limits of what we thought was possible. And yet, we are surviving. Step by step, day by day. There’s a reason why…

The first couple days for me were the typical shock factor. Then the shock wore off and I had a moment of peace. I realized…I’ve been here before. Not exactly in the same circumstances. But similar enough.

How To Empower Your Children To Grieve

Perhaps this post is timely given the current, and rapid moving, changes our children are navigating through right now. The fact is, our children carry a lot of loss with them. How do we empower them to grieve this?

Our children often hesitate to show and share emotion because they have not had a safe place to do that in the past. They may keep hard parts of their story from us because they are afraid we will think less of them, that we will think less of their first family, or that we will not be able to handle the knowledge of the sad things.