In this brand new episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, our amazing producer, Matt McCarrick, chats with Mike about his brand new book, Winning The Heart Of Your Child, how to be an influence in your child’s life, why your kids sometimes seem like they aren’t listening at all, and some of the hardest stories he told in the new book!
Parenting is far from easy. In fact, it can take the life out of you at times. But it’s beautiful and amazing, in-spite of the frustrations. Believe it or not, you are the greatest voice of influence in your child’s life. You’re just not the only voice of influence. In this episode, Mike and our producer Matt cover a lot of ground when it comes to building a positive lifelong relationship with your children. Listen in now…
Mike Berry has a new book! We invite you to read about it here.
Believe it or not, you are the greatest voice of influence in your child’s life. You’re not the only voice, but you are the greatest! How do you leverage this to build a lifelong relationship with your child? Here’s the answer…
My new book, Winning The Heart Of Your Child: 9 Keys To Establishing A Positive Lifelong Relationship With Your Kids debuts today and I thought I’d take a moment to share a little more about the 9 central keys I share in the book. After nearly 2 decades of working with parents and families, I’m convinced these 9 keys are the answer to maximizing your influence in your child’s life and establishing the healthiest relationship possible.
Not that long ago, my two teenage daughters and I headed out for a father-daughter weekend camp. I knew it would be awesome. What I didn’t know was how much I would learn from my time with them.
The rain has picked up and lightning flashes across the darkening sky forming momentary webs of light that stretch across the expanse of the Indiana sky above us. Our van shakes as we zoom down the expressway. With each thunder clap my 14-year-old daughter jumps in the passenger seat. Eventually she reaches across the center space between my seat and hers, and clutches my hand. She squeezes tightly. Even at 14. She’s been running to my lap or reaching for my hand during storms or scary movies since she learned to walk.
We believe in foster and adoptive parents. While you may never be applauded, nor recognized, what you are doing has a profound impact on the world.
It took a long time for us to believe in our story. More than a decade, in fact. We couldn’t figure out how anything good could come out of all the wounds we had sustained as parents, not to mention the trauma our children had gone through. It seemed our circumstances were never going to change. We often asked ourselves…”Is there any way to find hope in the middle of this?”
Every now and then, when I least expect it, I receive a text, an email, a Tweet, or a Facebook comment that leaves me speechless. The other day that happened.
It was a normal, fairly productive day, for the most part. The summer sun was up and shining bright, we had crossed off errands from our list, and we even bought a new sofa for a much lower price than we expected. A win as far as we were concerned. Honestly, for the past few weeks we’ve been adjusting to our special summer schedule, where my wife works in the morning while I’m home with our kids, then we flip flop in the afternoon.
As a parent you are the greatest voice of influence in your child’s life. But your voice is not the only one they will listen to. There’s a season when you will be lower on the list, behind friends and culture. How you respond when this happens is critical to your relationship with your child.
Several years ago I was meeting with the distraught parents of a 15-year old kid. For over an hour I listened as they poured their hearts out, saying things like, “I don’t know what happened. Just a few years ago he wanted to be around us, he would tell us everything, he never talked back to us, he was the perfect child. That’s all changed now! We don’t know what to do!”
Parenthood is one of life’s journeys that challenges you, moves you, and makes you a better person. But there are a few paramount reasons parenting is so powerful and transformational to the world we live in!
To be honest, we had no plan when we began having children. Being adoptive parents, we didn’t even have a 9-month period to formulate a plan. It was more like 3 months, give or take a few weeks. After becoming foster parents, that shrunk to 3 hours, if we were lucky. As I reflect back on more than a decade of parenting, I simply marvel at the journey we’ve been on. It’s had it’s ups and downs and challenges that have nearly broken us, but all-in-all, it’s been amazing! Out of all the life choices we’ve made, becoming parents is in the top 5!