Dear Special Needs Parent: I Know It Hurts When Others Don’t Get It.

*Editors Note- This is a guest post by our good friend, and fellow blogger, Ellen Stumbo. She is a writer, speaker, and blogger who writes about finding beauty in brokenness with gritty honesty and openness. She tackles issues about faith, parenting, special needs, adoption, and confessions related to these topics. You can check out her blog here, and follow her on Facebook here.

As parents of children with special needs we often carry the weight of a world that doesn’t understand our children, or unfairly labels them. Sometimes the only way we can make it on this journey, is hearing some reassurance from others in the trench.

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Dear special needs parent,

Some people will never get what it is like to walk in our shoes. No matter how many times we try to explain our situation, our child, the challenges our family has to face – no matter how many details we share – the reality is that most people won’t get it. And some people might think we are exaggerating, or that we are not doing enough, and we might feel judged by their words or forgotten by their actions. So I want to say something very important to you, to me, to all of us that have been misunderstood: I know the pain and the hurt because I have felt it too, but, it’s time to forgive and let go.

How To Answer Off-Handed Questions About Your Adoption Journey.

An Honest Answer From The Heart Of An Adoptive Mom

This is a guest post by our good friend Michele Schneidler, founder of The Refresh Conference in Redmond, Washington. Check out her blog here, or like the Refresh Facebook Page.

It’s a question adoptive parents are asked quite often. Most of the time we can ignore it, dismiss it, or even answer with a measure of grace. But we have to speak up, enlighten, and protect our children when they hear the questions.

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“Is She Adopted?”

It’s a simple question that comes from curious minds of folks who mean no harm. I get it. The problem is, I am asked this question several times a week lately. Sometimes several times a day. In front of my daughter. If it was just you who asked, I wouldn’t be so concerned. But it isn’t. So I thought I’d offer up a little perspective from a concerned adoptive mom of 3.