At some point or another, children with a trauma history will begin to recount, remember, or talk about the hards parts of their story. How do we help them process through this? Here are some steps…
On an unseasonably warm night in February last year, we sat on our front porch with our children gathered around. Our objective was to assemble a new wagon we had just bought for our new farm (yes, we bought a farm!). The excitement was palpable because this wagon would carry our kids’ toys, pets, neighborhood friends, and a few of their odd inventions.
Earlier this week, my daughter and I had the opportunity to pre-screen the Disney Pixar film Onward. In today’s post, I’m giving you my full take on the film.
I knew it would happen. I went into the theater on Monday night expecting it. After all, what Disney Pixar film DOESN’T grab your heart and choke you up a bit?
I was expecting humor (because, HELLO, Chris Pratt playing big brother Barley? Given!). My daughter was gushing over Tom Holland (as little brother Ian Lightfoot). To say she’s a fan would be an understatement. She literally wept in the theater and had to be consoled by other patrons when Tommy boy floated away in a cloud of ash in Tony Stark’s arms during the end of Infinity War. Okay, okay…we all shed some tears during that scene. I’ll give her that one!
For years, foster care has been misunderstood, unfairly judged, criticized through local media and television shows, and the subject of harsh headlines. It’s time to set the record straight…
We spent 9 years in the foster care system, as a care-givers to more than 23 children. Six of those children never left our care and became a permanent part of our family from 2008 until 2012. Our years in the system were trying but also filled with lots of beautiful moments. Thankfully we made it a point to live with as much peace as possible. As a result, we still have relationships with many of the children we fostered, as well as their families.
As a parent you are the greatest voice of influence in your child’s life. But your voice is not the only one they will listen to. There’s a season when you will be lower on the list, behind friends and culture. How you respond when this happens is critical to your relationship with your child.
Several years ago I was meeting with the distraught parents of a 15-year old kid. For over an hour I listened as they poured their hearts out, saying things like, “I don’t know what happened. Just a few years ago he wanted to be around us, he would tell us everything, he never talked back to us, he was the perfect child. That’s all changed now! We don’t know what to do!”