How To Overcome The Pain Of Perfection.

We all dream of the ideal life, and the perfect picture, when it comes to our family. But what happens when that’s not the life we’re living? How do you respond?

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I feel the anxiety coming before it takes hold. There is always a moment when I choose to banish the feeling or surrender to it. Anxiety grips my stomach first. The familiar knot begins to form as soon as something is amiss. It could be a simple as a dust bunny under the dining room table or as complex as a child services investigation. The knot spreads and my heart begins pounding. Anxiety travels from my chest to my limbs and my hands begin to shake. I have a few moments to regulate my breathing, turn my mind and get a grip. Sometimes I do and sometimes I’m too late.

The Illusion Of A Perfect Life

And Why So Many Think They Need One.

It’s been said that a picture is worth a thousand words. I’m not sure if I could find a thousand words, but I do know that when it comes to pictures, what you see is not always what you get.

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Take a moment to study the picture of us above. If I wrote nothing and just left it to your imagination, what would you say about it? How would you describe what you saw? Maybe you would speak of how happy we are, or the beautiful scenery around us. Perhaps you would remark, “Cute family,” or secretly wish you could take a vacation like this. Maybe you would actually have a thousand words to say. Maybe you would simply think to yourself, “It must have been a good day.” Somewhere in your mind and heart, you may even think, “They look like the perfect family.”