In The Middle Of A Crisis, Our Families Are Strong!

We are living in unprecedented times right now. Some of us parents are being tested to the limits of what we thought was possible. And yet, we are surviving. Step by step, day by day. There’s a reason why…

The first couple days for me were the typical shock factor. Then the shock wore off and I had a moment of peace. I realized…I’ve been here before. Not exactly in the same circumstances. But similar enough.

What Do You Do When Your Child Lies About Everything?

Lying. It’s so frustrating to deal with as a parent. We want to engage, and battle until we can squeak the truth out of our children. But it’s often futile. How do we respond, and what can we do, when our children constantly lie?

“Did you take the cookie?” – Child shakes his head no, while holding the cookie.

“Did you text that boy from school, that dad and I asked you not to text?” – Teenager’s eyes go wide as she swears on her life she didn’t. 

Is It Disobedience Or Survival?

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 13, Episode 104

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For the next several weeks we are asking the question, “Is it disobedience or something else?” The reality is, children who have experienced significant trauma display behaviors that can often be misinterpreted as disobedience. But the truth is, there is so much more going on.

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How To Survive The First Few Years Of The Adoption Journey.

You got into this because you were passionate about loving children. But you soon found out, the journey is more difficult than you anticipated. How do you survive the first year or 2 of the adoption journey?

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It’s the early hours of a Monday morning when I open my laptop to check email. The glowing light of my screen is the only light in my quiet house. The sun hasn’t even begun its ascent over the treeline in our backyard.

A Letter From A Mother….

I came across this post as I was searching through my archives and wanted to share it again. My wife wrote this a few years ago to our 22 year old daughter and I shared it last year on this blog. We believe our children are one of the greatest gifts we’ve been given. Even when life is difficult, we love them and believe in them!

The other night our 22-year old daughter came home and my wife and I sat and talked to her for a long while. We listened to her frustrations, we shared some of ours, we talked about wise-choices, we all smiled, laughed a little, loved one another, and even cried a bit. It got me thinking about this post, written by my wife several months ago. It’s a letter she wrote to our daughter after a night like we had a few nights ago. It’s powerful, telling, and most of all, healing!

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Dear Daughter,

I just got off the phone with you and I always feel there is so much more to say. You are doubting your worth. You are confused and uncertain of your purpose. You have a glimpse of how valuable you might be. You are wondering if your circumstances might be holding you back from your potential. You are afraid you don’t have the strength to change.

Oh, if only I could give you more than a glimpse of your worth. If only you could see yourself through the eyes of your dad and me. We marvel at the creation that is you. We are astounded at your strength and resiliency.

Dad and I knew you were something special the first time we met you. You were a quiet 15 year old. You were shy and uncertain. Having just lost your family, you had the weight of the world on your shoulders. Even through your sadness we could see the loving and kind spirit that shown in your eyes. You have a brilliant smile, an exuberant joy and a quiet steadfastness. Over the next 5 years, our observation of your character would prove true time and again.

A couple of weeks ago I told you about that one lone marigold growing out of the pea gravel next to our fire pit. As you know, Dad and I love to plant flowers. Every fall we turn our marigolds over into the soil. In the spring we delight in watching the orange and yellow blooms sprout all over our garden. This spring we noticed with amusement that one of the seeds had been dropped in the middle of a pile of gravel and bloomed. We didn’t have the heart to pluck it, so there it has grown. Out of the hundreds of marigolds that have blossomed this year, that one unique flower, is the strongest and most beautiful of them all.

In your life, you have been carried unwillingly to places that you did not desire to go. You have been planted into circumstances that you did not wish for. However, you have chosen to blossom. You have extended your roots, soaked up life’s nourishment and grown stronger than those around you.
Now you find yourself in a place that may be holding you back…

Do you have strength to change? Yes.

Do you have a life worth changing? Yes.

Do you have a purpose? YES.

How do I know? Simple, God Made You!
I wasn’t there when he knit you together. I wasn’t there when you were born. I wasn’t there when you walked, talked, rode a bike for the first time.  I don’t hold every memory you hold in your heart. I’m sorry I don’t share those things with you. I do share this. I have watched you grow into a young woman. I have seen your kindness. I have felt your love. I have watched you serve others. I have witnessed your humility. I have taken joy in your joy. I have feared for your safety. I have trusted you implicitly. I have shed tears over your sorrow. I have valued every minute of being your mother. I know the depth of your worth. You are worth everything. 
I love you.
Love,
Mom

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