We have said this repeatedly over the past 5 years. When you gain an understanding of how trauma has changed your child, your entire parenting journey will change. Here’s why…
I will never forget the moment my mind was fully opened to the reality of what our children have experienced and why they do and say the things they do at times. It was Christmastime, six years ago. On a cold December night, something triggered our child, who has a trauma history. We were popping popcorn, pulling out blankets, and settling down in our family room for a family movie night. For reasons that remain a mystery, he wasn’t having any of it.
There are all sorts of parenting examples in our world. Some good, some okay, and some…not so good. I’m fortunate to have had the opportunity to learn from the greatest parenting example I know.
Am I spoiled? Hmmmm, let me think. If you would have asked me this question as a kid, I think I would have said, “absolutely not.” While my friends got the latest He-Man action figures, I got books at the book-mobile. (For those non-rural folks, a book-mobile is a traveling library.) While my peers were playing Mario Brothers, I was adhering to my parent’s strict “no video games” rule. Sugar cereal? Are you kidding? Cheerios boasts 1 gram of sugar. As my friends traveled between the homes of divorced parents, enjoying two closets and two Christmases, I was gagging over the sight of my parents’ kissing in the kitchen. While my classmates served alcohol at their parties and were encouraged to experiment with drugs and sex, I had a curfew and parents who checked every single time to see if I was where I was supposed to be.