Will My Husband Ever Be A Fan Of Adoption?

It’s not always the case, but often, men can be the toughest nut to crack when it comes to the adoption journey. I know from personal experience. There are a few reasons why this happens, and some key steps you can take to change his mind.

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Back in the day, before we got married, I said no to just about everything. In fact, if shaking my head was an Olympic sport, I would have taken the gold. I was such a difficult person to get along with in those days. One of the biggest topics Kristin and I disagreed over was parenting. Sitting in my metallic blue Pontiac Firebird one cold November night, in the fall of 1998, we had a discussion fight over parenting. Kristin wanted to adopt. I did not. At all. Period. Case closed. End of discussion. Or, so I thought.

4 Reasons The Health Of Your Marriage Must Come Before Your Children.

Over the past 17 years, we’ve discovered that many things create a healthy and happy home. The biggest? Putting the health of our marriage above our children.

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It’s usually 8:30 when I give the first warning shot to my two teenaged daughters. At 9pm, I say, “Fifteen minutes till it’s time for you two to head upstairs.” I repeat this nearly every night. And nearly every night they argue. “But why do we have to go to bed at 9;15,” they lament. “We’re not children anymore.”

We are tentatively scheduled to speak at the 2017 Mosaic Retreat in Simi Valley, California. Check back for more updates later on. To learn more about the Mosaic Retreat for foster and adoptive parents, click here.

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Date: November 4, 2017
Event: Mosaic Retreat
Location: Simi Valley, California
Public: Public
More Info: Click here for more information.

How To Parent A Child Who Constantly Fights For Survival.

Children who come from trauma are often in a fight for survival, even if they’ve been in your loving care for some time. It’s exhausting and unending at times. How do you successfully parent children who are in a fight while keeping your sanity?

Agressive boxing fight

On a mild Monday evening, around 6 pm, I wait expectedly in our kitchen, repeating a series of words over and over to myself. Today is the first day I’ve allowed my son to ride his bike home from football practice. On the stove is a pan of spaghetti and meatballs. In the oven, Texas Toast (our favorite). Dinner is ready. When he gets home, we’ll all sit down and eat. But I know what’s coming. I can hear his words in my head before he even walks through the door… “What’s for dinner?”

Foster and Adoptive dads….join Mike Berry from Confessions Of An Adoptive Parent and Andrew Schneidler from The Refresh Conference for the very first ROAD TRIP: COLORADO retreat created just for foster and adoptive dads. Click here to learn all about this awesome experience!

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Date: October 26, 2016—October 29, 2016
Event: Road Trip: Colorado, 2016
Location: Colorado Springs, Colorado
Public: Public
Registration: Click here to register.
More Info: Click here for more information.

How Love Makes This Journey A Million Times Harder.

We entered into foster care and adoption for one reason: Love. And if this choice has taught us anything, it’s that true love will take the life out of you in a heartbeat.

Mountain View and Hiker

The front porch of our house is my go-to place anytime I need to rant, or lend a listening ear to a friend in need. I’m not sure why, since we live on a busy street. There’s a constant stream of cars, trucks, and school buses zooming past at all hours of the day. Not exactly the quiet backdrop you’re looking for when helping a friend out. The other day, my friend called me frustrated and defeated.