Thoughts On Hair Care And Support For Transracial Adoptees

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 119

Are you a transracial adoptive family, foster family or mixed race family? Are you a person with fantastic curly hair? Whoever you are and whatever type of hair you have, you will love Janine Beachy. She was a true delight to interview.

Janine talked with us about the importance of haircare in the Black community, why we should teach our daughters to set boundaries around others touching their hair and how her curly hair journey led to becoming a resource for transracial adoptive families. We think you will love her as much as we do!

We encourage you to listen in as well as follow her on Instagram @life_with_curlz

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Thoughts On Adoption From A Transracial Adoptee

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- LEADING VOICES SPOTLIGHT- Season 14, Episode 118

One of the greatest resources for us as adoptive and foster parents is adoptees, and adoptee’s voices. We are fortunate to partner with many adoptees from all ages and walks of life. We have learned so much from them, and will continue to do so. On the latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are pleased to welcome transracial adoptee and advocate, Tori DeMartile.

Tori is a transracial adoptee on a lifelong journey toward an integrated and celebrated racial identity. She grew up one of two biracial African American/Caucasian children in a white Italian-American home in Kentucky. From multicultural bedtime stories, to the 1% ‘of color’ at her independent high school, navigating life as a biracial adoptee has taken varying degrees of emotional investment and energy throughout her life. She is a blogger and thought-leader at Wreckage & Wonder. On today’s episode she gives valuable insight and understanding into the transracial adoption journey and what we can do, as parents, to better care for, and lead, our children. Listen to the episode now…

Understanding The Goal Of Re-Regulation

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 117

We know that applying strategies to help our children calm down, and find peace, when they are out-of-sorts is crucial, but what is the overall goal of re-regulation? That’s our topic in this week’s episode.

Why is it necessary that we are regulated, and respond to our children calmly and firmly? Why do our children need to learn steps to peace that they can eventually apply to their lives on their own? And why is re-regulation so necessary to building trust and a healthy connection with our children? All of these questions may seem obvious, but oftentimes, we misunderstand the big goal of re-regulation strategies. That’s what we’re discussing on our latest episode. Listen in now…

Why Re-regulation Is Not Spoiling Or Enabling

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 116

Re-regulation strategies are commonly misconstrued as enabling, or letting off the hook, when a clear consequence for behavior is warranted. However, as caregivers of children with a trauma history, we are working on a bigger picture. In our latest episode we explore why this is…

You’ve probably been there a time or two when your child was dysregulated: extended family, close friends, or even your other children frustrated or angry because, instead of swift correction (which they all believe should happen) you’re talking calmly to your child, as if they had done nothing wrong. It’s a common occurrence that outsiders will misconstrue re-regulation strategies for enabling, or letting of the hook. But that’s not the case. On today’s show, we discuss why that is. Listen in now…

How Body Awareness Leads To Regulation

The Honestly Adoption Podcast- Season 14, Episode 115

We often do not consider the importance of body awareness when it comes to helping our children re-regulate, but teaching them to connect to the feelings and emotions they are experiencing within their body can be a powerful tool in helping them find a place of peace quickly. Here’s why…

In this week’s edition of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we’re discussing body awareness as it pertains to re-regulation. There are several avenues that body awareness can travel, but when our children can understand their 5 main senses, and how to identify when they’re off base in one, or more, they can find peace quickly. Listen in now…

My Son Has A FASD, But That’s Not His Definition

This post is written by a dad, in hopes of sharing encouragement (and also to brag about his son)

This month is FASD Awareness Month. FASD stands for Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. It is the umbrella title over several diagnoses surrounding drug and alcohol exposure in utero. My son has a FASD. But he’s not defined by it.

“He came in first place!”

My fingers were shaking with joy as I sent this text to my spouse this past Sunday, from the 50th Special Olympics games where my son competed. He had asked me, just before the race, what place I thought he would get. “I don’t know bud. Just go out there and give it your best,” I said encouragingly. “Okay, I will. You’re in for a treat today dad,” he said with that cheesy grin of his that has always brought a smile to our faces.