The leaves are changing, the temperatures are dropping, and the time has changed here in the United States, meaning one thing: it’s fall. We’ve got some great recommended reading to warm up those chilly fall nights.
I (Mike) admit it, I’m listening to Christmas music as I write this post. I can’t help it. Once Halloween is over, it’s the Christmas season as far as I’m concerned. My family usually revolts. They try to stop me, stage interventions, even re-hide the Christmas decorations. But they have no control over my Christmas lists on Spotify :-). Yes I know, it’s not Christmas yet. The fall has just begun. So, because of that, I’ve got a hot-off-the-press fall reading list to make these windy, nippy fall nights a little warmer.
It’s November 1st. Halloween decorations are being replaced with turkey cut-outs and corn-a-capias on front doors. Soon, Christmas lights will dawn those same homes. It’s officially the holiday season. But for foster and adoptive families, this can mean dysregulation city! How do you help your children stay calm and regulated during this season?
It’s tricky, but there are some key steps you can take to navigate the holidays with your children and find success. You may even find that often-elusive peace. It begins by being intentional with planning, boundary-setting, awareness of what your children need, and a few other things. Listen in to our discussion now…
Are you a transracial adoptive family, foster family or mixed race family? Are you a person with fantastic curly hair? Whoever you are and whatever type of hair you have, you will love Janine Beachy. She was a true delight to interview.
Janine talked with us about the importance of haircare in the Black community, why we should teach our daughters to set boundaries around others touching their hair and how her curly hair journey led to becoming a resource for transracial adoptive families. We think you will love her as much as we do!
We encourage you to listen in as well as follow her on Instagram @life_with_curlz
Mike will be speaking during Reunion Church’s Sunday Service in Thousand Oaks, California on November 3rd
||November 3, 2019
||Reunion Church Sunday Service
||Thousand Oaks, California
||Click here for more information.
One of the greatest resources for us as adoptive and foster parents is adoptees, and adoptee’s voices. We are fortunate to partner with many adoptees from all ages and walks of life. We have learned so much from them, and will continue to do so. On the latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are pleased to welcome transracial adoptee and advocate, Torie DiMartile.
Torie is a transracial adoptee on a lifelong journey toward an integrated and celebrated racial identity. She grew up one of two biracial African American/Caucasian children in a white Italian-American home in Kentucky. From multicultural bedtime stories, to the 1% ‘of color’ at her independent high school, navigating life as a biracial adoptee has taken varying degrees of emotional investment and energy throughout her life. She is a blogger and thought-leader at Wreckage & Wonder. On today’s episode she gives valuable insight and understanding into the transracial adoption journey and what we can do, as parents, to better care for, and lead, our children. Listen to the episode now…
We know that applying strategies to help our children calm down, and find peace, when they are out-of-sorts is crucial, but what is the overall goal of re-regulation? That’s our topic in this week’s episode.
Why is it necessary that we are regulated, and respond to our children calmly and firmly? Why do our children need to learn steps to peace that they can eventually apply to their lives on their own? And why is re-regulation so necessary to building trust and a healthy connection with our children? All of these questions may seem obvious, but oftentimes, we misunderstand the big goal of re-regulation strategies. That’s what we’re discussing on our latest episode. Listen in now…
Re-regulation strategies are commonly misconstrued as enabling, or letting off the hook, when a clear consequence for behavior is warranted. However, as caregivers of children with a trauma history, we are working on a bigger picture. In our latest episode we explore why this is…
You’ve probably been there a time or two when your child was dysregulated: extended family, close friends, or even your other children frustrated or angry because, instead of swift correction (which they all believe should happen) you’re talking calmly to your child, as if they had done nothing wrong. It’s a common occurrence that outsiders will misconstrue re-regulation strategies for enabling, or letting of the hook. But that’s not the case. On today’s show, we discuss why that is. Listen in now…