|Date:||September 14, 2019|
|Event:||Moving From Surviving To Thriving Conference|
|Location:||Port Huron, Michigan|
|More Info:||Click here for more information.|
When we begin the foster or adoptive journey, we need support. Often, we find it through family and close friendships. But sometimes, we don’t. What do you do when you realize it’s time to walk away from those relationships?
I’ve heard a lot of stories through the years about drama and pain caused by friends and family. There are many reasons this happens in adoptive families. And some, including me, have struggled with the decision to walk away from others and chosen the health of our children over the toxic relationship.
Welcome back to Part 2 of our special podcast series “Answers.” In this episode we discuss one of the questions we pose in our new book, Honestly Adoption, which is “Why Is It Important To Empower Our Children?”
Because our children have come from hard places, they often feel powerless to speak up for themselves, advocate for themselves, and even make decisions that affect their lives. The loss that lives within them often propels this. That’s why it’s critical that we empower our children. In this week’s episode we once again take you behind the scenes of writing our latest book, but also answer the question, “Why is it important to empower our children?” Listen in now…
As parents of children with a trauma history, we often find ourselves engaged in futile battles with them for control. But when we understand the why behind their fight, the way we parent them can change.
Let’s begin there. We understand the battles you’ve gone through (and are going through) with your child. We’ve been there. Every single day your child fights you for control and it’s exhausting. Sometimes, the battle makes sense. But most of the time, it doesn’t at all. Every day is a merry-go-round and you just want to get off of it for a while.
In just a couple of weeks, on August 6th, we will release our new book, Honestly Adoption: Answers To 101 Questions About Adoption and Foster Care. In this 3-part series called “Answers,” we’re taking you behind the scenes of how the book was written, and also answering some of the questions we ask in the book.
There are a lot of questions when it comes to foster care and adoption. One of the biggest questions we’ve received (and we answer in the book) is “How should I handle an older child’s tantrum in public?” Listen in now for the answer…
The children we care for may need to spend time every week seeing a therapist to help them process their trauma history. This is a good thing. However, it begs the question…what about you? The caregiver? What if you need therapy to? How do you find this?
I believe deeply in the importance of therapy for children who have experienced trauma. My children have had some of the most amazing counselors over the years who have gone out of their way to support not only my children but my entire family.
In our latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we conclude our series, Is It Disobedience Or Something Else, by talking about teenagers…
Fostering, adopting, or even simply parenting teenagers is no small task and it’s certainly not for the faint of heart. It’s challenging. But when you consider the reality of trauma histories, and how they determine present behavior, the question must be asked- “Is this a teenager being a teenager, or is there something else going on here?” That’s the question we answer in this episode of the podcast. Listen in now…
We are often asked what we need, or how someone can help our family. While these questions are always appreciated, the answer may surprise you.
We did it again. Another trip to grandparent’s house for the summer. Me and 4 kids on a long plane ride. As expected, it was not without incident. The return flight is always more laden with anxiety, exhaustion and nothing to look forward to so any ability we had to hold it together, is now gone. The kids ran off the plane before me as I struggled with the carry-on luggage. Immediately upon walking through the gate at our layover city, a stranger approached me and informed me she had just pulled one child off of the other. I replied with a quick, “thanks” and I tried to avoid eye contact with the hundreds of gawkers as our multi-racial family walked on (as if nothing happened) and made our way to the next gate.